He cuddles up with me but rarely likes kisssing passionately. He is kinda obsessive about hygeine and has a list of do's and dont's that completely kill my passion. He is over all a nice person but doesnt realise how small things matter in life. I know life is not a fairytale and love is not just about flowers and gifts but I ned to be loved much more than this. I have tried speaking to him and he says, he is not built that way. i sometimes wonder if i am asking for too much?
My husband is great guy but less houghtfull about me. We have a good relationship but he is just not romantic?
You're not asking too much to be loved the way you yearn to be loved. I would talk to him and find a way that he feels comfortable showing his passion and love for you. See if that works and if not, try seeing a counselor about it. Best of luck!
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My sister wants to break up with her sort-of boyfriend?
They’ve been seeing each other casually for about a month. She was never attracted to him physically and went out with him because he was a nice guy. Now, he’s become a bit clingy and she has realized that she can’t ever be physically attracted to him. However, he keeps buying her flowers and gifts and she feels bad having to break up with him.
My sister wants to break up with her sort-of boyfriend?
Soo.. whats the question?
Its none of your buisness about your sister, if she doesent like him she should break it to him or shes just leading him on.
Reply:As bad as your sister feels, she has to be honest with him. We can all relate to being liked by a really nice guy, but when we don't feel the same way about them that he feels about us we need to be honest with him. Your sister needs to sit down and express her true feelings about, without being mean, and truly break it off, that includes not accepting any more gifts from him. To really let him know that she is serious, she may want to consider returning the gifts that he has given her because if she keeps accepting the gifts, she is only leading him on and that will cause matters to get even worse.
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My sister wants to break up with her sort-of boyfriend?
Soo.. whats the question?
Its none of your buisness about your sister, if she doesent like him she should break it to him or shes just leading him on.
Reply:As bad as your sister feels, she has to be honest with him. We can all relate to being liked by a really nice guy, but when we don't feel the same way about them that he feels about us we need to be honest with him. Your sister needs to sit down and express her true feelings about, without being mean, and truly break it off, that includes not accepting any more gifts from him. To really let him know that she is serious, she may want to consider returning the gifts that he has given her because if she keeps accepting the gifts, she is only leading him on and that will cause matters to get even worse.
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Question for the ladies?
If you find a man that truely loves you from the bottom of his heart and goes out of his way to show you everyday, Why would you cheat on him?
You come home from work and a full course dinner is waiting for you. The house work is done (except laundrey). Something nice is always planned on your off days. The sex life is more than satisfying. As soon as you walk in, your man takes your shoes off and rubs your feet knowing that you were working on them all day. The man sets aside playtime to spend with your kids(not his) He provides for you financially if you get caught in a bind. He leaves little notes around saying "i love you". And he brings your favorite flowers and gifts just because he cares!
Why do you tell him that you love him like you never loved anyone before and that you want to spend the rest of your life with him THAN CHEAT ON HIM!!
Is this something that women are programed to do? Cheat on a "good guy" with a low life loser that abuses woman?
Question for the ladies?
Awww I feel so bad for you! I'm gonna cry! You seem like the PERFECT boyfriend/husband. This girl took you for granted. Just wait...she is gonna come crawling back and begging you to forgive her. DON'T DO IT! She isn't worth it. But you will find someone one day. It may take a while and I don't blame you for the way you feel. But there is someone out there for you that won't do this to you.
Good luck and I hope you feel better. Go have a night out with the guys. Forget the women for now and just have fun!
Reply:Thats soo sweet but I believe that the question should have been would you cheat on him not why would you cheat on him. But thats sad is all of that true? Report It
Reply:I am sorry for you pain. Not all women cheat and you have to realize that. Just like not all men cheat. It hurts, I know I had that happen to me, and he cheated with my best friend. I like you swore I would never ever trust another man. But like the saying goes, it is better to love and maybe get hurt, then it is to never ever love again.
It has taken me a lot of time as it will you, but the right person does come around. Learn from this heartache but never ever loose who you are. Someday you will find someone who will love all you do for her and she in return will do for you..
Reply:Sorry for your pain. Not all women cheat. I think that yours may have been tempted. Temptation is evil. It can make you do things that you wouldn't dream of doing. I'm sure that it wasn't you, it sounds like you are very thoughtful and loving.
Reply:Women are the same as men when it comes to cheating, some do and some don't. Unfortunately you fell in love with the type who does cheat. Just don't let what she has done ruin your future relationships.
Reply:I'd be the luckiest woman alive if I had a man like that! I'd love him faithfully and cherish every moment of our relationship.
P.S. I gave my all to my ex, yet he still cheated on me. I sacrificed a lot even without getting anything in return for them. It hurt like HELL. But now I understand that it happened for a good reason - there's someone out there who's more deserving. The same goes to you. There's no reason for you not to be able to move on, start all over, and be happy with a woman you love (and love you in return)! Please don't turn into a player! Good luck! ;)
Reply:because she might not love you as much as you love her.or you aren't her type and she doesn't want to be mean
Reply:Does a guy like that actually exist? If I had a man like that I would cherish him!
Reply:I think you are right I would never cheat on a guy that really really loves me. I would love him the same way back.
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You come home from work and a full course dinner is waiting for you. The house work is done (except laundrey). Something nice is always planned on your off days. The sex life is more than satisfying. As soon as you walk in, your man takes your shoes off and rubs your feet knowing that you were working on them all day. The man sets aside playtime to spend with your kids(not his) He provides for you financially if you get caught in a bind. He leaves little notes around saying "i love you". And he brings your favorite flowers and gifts just because he cares!
Why do you tell him that you love him like you never loved anyone before and that you want to spend the rest of your life with him THAN CHEAT ON HIM!!
Is this something that women are programed to do? Cheat on a "good guy" with a low life loser that abuses woman?
Question for the ladies?
Awww I feel so bad for you! I'm gonna cry! You seem like the PERFECT boyfriend/husband. This girl took you for granted. Just wait...she is gonna come crawling back and begging you to forgive her. DON'T DO IT! She isn't worth it. But you will find someone one day. It may take a while and I don't blame you for the way you feel. But there is someone out there for you that won't do this to you.
Good luck and I hope you feel better. Go have a night out with the guys. Forget the women for now and just have fun!
Reply:Thats soo sweet but I believe that the question should have been would you cheat on him not why would you cheat on him. But thats sad is all of that true? Report It
Reply:I am sorry for you pain. Not all women cheat and you have to realize that. Just like not all men cheat. It hurts, I know I had that happen to me, and he cheated with my best friend. I like you swore I would never ever trust another man. But like the saying goes, it is better to love and maybe get hurt, then it is to never ever love again.
It has taken me a lot of time as it will you, but the right person does come around. Learn from this heartache but never ever loose who you are. Someday you will find someone who will love all you do for her and she in return will do for you..
Reply:Sorry for your pain. Not all women cheat. I think that yours may have been tempted. Temptation is evil. It can make you do things that you wouldn't dream of doing. I'm sure that it wasn't you, it sounds like you are very thoughtful and loving.
Reply:Women are the same as men when it comes to cheating, some do and some don't. Unfortunately you fell in love with the type who does cheat. Just don't let what she has done ruin your future relationships.
Reply:I'd be the luckiest woman alive if I had a man like that! I'd love him faithfully and cherish every moment of our relationship.
P.S. I gave my all to my ex, yet he still cheated on me. I sacrificed a lot even without getting anything in return for them. It hurt like HELL. But now I understand that it happened for a good reason - there's someone out there who's more deserving. The same goes to you. There's no reason for you not to be able to move on, start all over, and be happy with a woman you love (and love you in return)! Please don't turn into a player! Good luck! ;)
Reply:because she might not love you as much as you love her.or you aren't her type and she doesn't want to be mean
Reply:Does a guy like that actually exist? If I had a man like that I would cherish him!
Reply:I think you are right I would never cheat on a guy that really really loves me. I would love him the same way back.
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I dont appreciate it!
Why do I keep getting emails from bogus addresses like these??
You get "spam" mail whenever you register onto almost any site, they ask you if you don't mind being referred to third party sites which takes your information and e-mail address (sometimes just your e-mail address) and bug the heck out of you with spam mail. Sometimes, these sites just give away your e-mail address without your permission, or without your knowledges (it might be somewhere in the terms %26amp; conditions).
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Is it true that women fall for a**holes and not the nice guy??
I have been single for 6 years; I am in good shape, not a homosexual, caring, intelligent and a homeowner. I feel that I treat women with respect and shower them with flowers and gifts because I can afford it and usually just cause it's Wednesday. So ladies, you tell me, become an a**hole or stay the nice guy??
Is it true that women fall for a**holes and not the nice guy??
stay the nice guy!!!
Yes we like the @$$holes, its as if we think we can change them and then have that sense of accomplishment or something..
but eventually we get sick of those guys, and go looking for that nice guy, thats where you come in and show the lady how she is supposed to be treated
I just switched from a**hole to nice guy - and I have learned how I am supposed to be treated.. i guess just keep ya head up, and be you - some lady will be lucky to have you
Reply:Stay the nice guy. Most women go through a "bad boy" phase, but they will eventually snap out of it. Besides, a man's pool of eligibles increases with age, so you might be better off if you wait it out.
Reply:I have been involved with a few jerks in my time and some nice guys, but you know...sometimes nice guys can become a**holes.
Reply:Your too nice man. The ladies want a challenge. Stop being such a nice guy. I bet you get the just friends a lot huh. Definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting a different result. Be an @ss and don't give women what they want. Be cocky and funny. Find something about the woman and pick it apart in a funny way.
Reply:Stay the nice guy. It sounds like the women that you are going after are losers just like the a**holes they date. There are women out there that love the nice guys. I am one of them. I found my nice guy. Good Luck!
Reply:From a married nice guys perspective:
Stay the nice guy, but get out there and talk to some of these ladies, with nice usually comes shyness.
Be agressive with it, go out there introduce yourself and talk to them nice girls, you'd be surprised how fast you get snatched up, that's what my wife did to me.
Reply:Not true!! You should stay the nice Guy!!!!
Reply:Stay a nice guy...We need men like that around on this earth...Don't be a D*CK that just makes women hate you...
Reply:it depens on the woman. if the woman likes the outside that the inside(if she's an a**hole) than yes she will.
But if the woman likes the inside MORE than the inside than the insid(like me!) then she will only date a guy depending more on his personality than his looks.
Reply:It depends how old you are. Women generally grow out of the asshole stage in their late twenties, if they haven't then they have serious problems and are best left to the assholes until they learn their lesson.
Your not alone in that sense though, I've been properly single (by single I mean not permanently with someone) for 6 years, I'm independant, attract a lot of compliments, have got my head screwed on the right way, yet I keep being dumped for complete b*****es. I've contemplated the treat em mean and keep em keen thing too, but in the end have decided that its too much like hard work, its not me and I'd like to keep treating people how I'd like to be treated, It'll work for me one day I'm sure (forever optimistic too)
Reply:Stay a nice guy
Reply:Smart, independent woman will avoid the a**holes, and recognize a nice guy when they see one. Guys who are a**holes tend to attract either women who are as rude as they are or women whose self-esteem is low enough to keep taking the guy's nonsense. So what type of woman do you want? A quality one, or an unqualified one? Be the nice guy and get a better class of women.
Reply:the right mature girl will fall for you, the inmature will fall for the wrong guy cause she doesnt know any better, better of without her
Reply:yes cause the pick the opposite of who their parents like i did and my parents hated him and i loved him we are now married and my dad still hates him but my mom kinda likes him
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Is it true that women fall for a**holes and not the nice guy??
stay the nice guy!!!
Yes we like the @$$holes, its as if we think we can change them and then have that sense of accomplishment or something..
but eventually we get sick of those guys, and go looking for that nice guy, thats where you come in and show the lady how she is supposed to be treated
I just switched from a**hole to nice guy - and I have learned how I am supposed to be treated.. i guess just keep ya head up, and be you - some lady will be lucky to have you
Reply:Stay the nice guy. Most women go through a "bad boy" phase, but they will eventually snap out of it. Besides, a man's pool of eligibles increases with age, so you might be better off if you wait it out.
Reply:I have been involved with a few jerks in my time and some nice guys, but you know...sometimes nice guys can become a**holes.
Reply:Your too nice man. The ladies want a challenge. Stop being such a nice guy. I bet you get the just friends a lot huh. Definition of insanity is doing the same thing and expecting a different result. Be an @ss and don't give women what they want. Be cocky and funny. Find something about the woman and pick it apart in a funny way.
Reply:Stay the nice guy. It sounds like the women that you are going after are losers just like the a**holes they date. There are women out there that love the nice guys. I am one of them. I found my nice guy. Good Luck!
Reply:From a married nice guys perspective:
Stay the nice guy, but get out there and talk to some of these ladies, with nice usually comes shyness.
Be agressive with it, go out there introduce yourself and talk to them nice girls, you'd be surprised how fast you get snatched up, that's what my wife did to me.
Reply:Not true!! You should stay the nice Guy!!!!
Reply:Stay a nice guy...We need men like that around on this earth...Don't be a D*CK that just makes women hate you...
Reply:it depens on the woman. if the woman likes the outside that the inside(if she's an a**hole) than yes she will.
But if the woman likes the inside MORE than the inside than the insid(like me!) then she will only date a guy depending more on his personality than his looks.
Reply:It depends how old you are. Women generally grow out of the asshole stage in their late twenties, if they haven't then they have serious problems and are best left to the assholes until they learn their lesson.
Your not alone in that sense though, I've been properly single (by single I mean not permanently with someone) for 6 years, I'm independant, attract a lot of compliments, have got my head screwed on the right way, yet I keep being dumped for complete b*****es. I've contemplated the treat em mean and keep em keen thing too, but in the end have decided that its too much like hard work, its not me and I'd like to keep treating people how I'd like to be treated, It'll work for me one day I'm sure (forever optimistic too)
Reply:Stay a nice guy
Reply:Smart, independent woman will avoid the a**holes, and recognize a nice guy when they see one. Guys who are a**holes tend to attract either women who are as rude as they are or women whose self-esteem is low enough to keep taking the guy's nonsense. So what type of woman do you want? A quality one, or an unqualified one? Be the nice guy and get a better class of women.
Reply:the right mature girl will fall for you, the inmature will fall for the wrong guy cause she doesnt know any better, better of without her
Reply:yes cause the pick the opposite of who their parents like i did and my parents hated him and i loved him we are now married and my dad still hates him but my mom kinda likes him
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Are you a.?
romantic at heart
with all the flowers and gifts and sappy love music
Are you a.?
so i've been told
Reply:No im not.
Reply:romantic at heart with all the flowers and gifts. Butt,not so much sappy love music!
KIsses
Reply:yeah, and butterflies are always around me
Reply:definitely
Reply:i sure can be
Reply:Definitely. I'm a sap. lol
Reply:Yepper.... that I am!
Now if only I could get my honey to be that way, too!
Reply:yes a lil bit
Reply:Not really.
Reply:I hate that sh*t..
I find it very corny and uncomfortable..
I like to feel the love of the person without all that and dont need it.
although i do understand that some people do need that to make themselves feel ok in a relationship.
Reply:yup! i love all of that
Reply:oh my word have you been spying on me?
Reply:I am. In fact, I just bought a really cool card for my hubby. I will put it in his gym bag for tomorrow and when he goes to workout, he will be reminded that he is loved.
All the little stuff matters in a relationship.
Sandy :O)
Reply:nah...gifts maybe, but no flowers and sappy music here
Reply:Yes Ma'am.
Reply:oh yep i am
Reply:yeap im
Reply:Indeed my dear
Reply:No not really,Romance are sometimes boring!
Reply:yes
Reply:You say that like it's a bad thing
Reply:yup
Reply:of course
Reply:no not really the most romantic thing my husband can do for me is spend time with me and listen. I don't need all that other stuff just his attention
Reply:I'm halfway there. I am romantic, but I don't over-do it
Reply:yes,
not with all that stuff (well at times that stuff)
but yes, a broken one.
Reply:usually
Reply:im soooo guilty of it..yes im a hopless romantic..and a beliver of true love and fariy tale endings
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with all the flowers and gifts and sappy love music
Are you a.?
so i've been told
Reply:No im not.
Reply:romantic at heart with all the flowers and gifts. Butt,not so much sappy love music!
KIsses
Reply:yeah, and butterflies are always around me
Reply:definitely
Reply:i sure can be
Reply:Definitely. I'm a sap. lol
Reply:Yepper.... that I am!
Now if only I could get my honey to be that way, too!
Reply:yes a lil bit
Reply:Not really.
Reply:I hate that sh*t..
I find it very corny and uncomfortable..
I like to feel the love of the person without all that and dont need it.
although i do understand that some people do need that to make themselves feel ok in a relationship.
Reply:yup! i love all of that
Reply:oh my word have you been spying on me?
Reply:I am. In fact, I just bought a really cool card for my hubby. I will put it in his gym bag for tomorrow and when he goes to workout, he will be reminded that he is loved.
All the little stuff matters in a relationship.
Sandy :O)
Reply:nah...gifts maybe, but no flowers and sappy music here
Reply:Yes Ma'am.
Reply:oh yep i am
Reply:yeap im
Reply:Indeed my dear
Reply:No not really,Romance are sometimes boring!
Reply:yes
Reply:You say that like it's a bad thing
Reply:yup
Reply:of course
Reply:no not really the most romantic thing my husband can do for me is spend time with me and listen. I don't need all that other stuff just his attention
Reply:I'm halfway there. I am romantic, but I don't over-do it
Reply:yes,
not with all that stuff (well at times that stuff)
but yes, a broken one.
Reply:usually
Reply:im soooo guilty of it..yes im a hopless romantic..and a beliver of true love and fariy tale endings
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I'm in love. How should I express it?
Hello, everyone. I'm in a complicated situation and really need some advice on this. I've met a girl, about four months ago, and I think we already have a beautiful story together as friends. I fell in love with her completely, but she doesn't love me, no matter how good friends we are.
It is far too complicated to explain here what we've been through... I've been completely honest to her, tried speaking to her in an flattering and encouraging way, dedicated A LOT of time and money to her and she knows it, given her lots of flowers and gifts, held doors open for her and gave her my seat in the subway, and I kissed her many times already. She still says I can't make her happy.
The thing is I've been hurt in my past and it's hard getting over it. She's been hurt too, and now she's cautious of anyone who tries to get near her - understandably. All of my success seems to be in making her feel a tremendous amount of pressure. I want to be less emotional... And I don't want to give up.
I'm in love. How should I express it?
well i know it is hard but you have to follow your heart, do not give up, tell her you love her, sit her down and have a talk with her about her past and yours, but whatever you do, in the end i'm sure u guys can still be friends, just say something like can we at least try? if it does not work out we can still be friends, i do not want you giving up on love, not yet.
if that does not work, then i guess it just was not meant to be. pray about it. it works.
Reply:Express it the best way you know how.
White Teeth
It is far too complicated to explain here what we've been through... I've been completely honest to her, tried speaking to her in an flattering and encouraging way, dedicated A LOT of time and money to her and she knows it, given her lots of flowers and gifts, held doors open for her and gave her my seat in the subway, and I kissed her many times already. She still says I can't make her happy.
The thing is I've been hurt in my past and it's hard getting over it. She's been hurt too, and now she's cautious of anyone who tries to get near her - understandably. All of my success seems to be in making her feel a tremendous amount of pressure. I want to be less emotional... And I don't want to give up.
I'm in love. How should I express it?
well i know it is hard but you have to follow your heart, do not give up, tell her you love her, sit her down and have a talk with her about her past and yours, but whatever you do, in the end i'm sure u guys can still be friends, just say something like can we at least try? if it does not work out we can still be friends, i do not want you giving up on love, not yet.
if that does not work, then i guess it just was not meant to be. pray about it. it works.
Reply:Express it the best way you know how.
White Teeth
WOMEN! how do i get my x to changer her mind about us?
my x and i have been broken up for several months we still have feelings for each other but she is not ready for a relationship yet. so we are friend right now but since we r friends she plays these little games. comes out with excuses all the time. when i ask her to go out she comes out with an excuse. she get jeolous when i have fun and other girls are interested in me. before i was available to her with open arms now i cut back on that now she s complaining about it. i hate being like this but she is taking me for granted i know it.
how can i turn things around? i brought her flowers and gifts always compliment her etc etc but she s not budging
what am i doing wrong? please help me out
WOMEN! how do i get my x to changer her mind about us?
let her go..she's just testing you now...she doesnt want you, but no one else can have you...trust me, you will be better off without each other...sorry
Reply:You didn't do anything wrong, but you would be most benefitted by getting over it. There is a reason you broke up and once you start the on again off again trend, it will never end. Can you deal with that for the rest of your life? Then just be friends.
Reply:you're not doing anything wrong if you ask me she's playing games with you and as much as i hate to admit it most girl do this including me. leave her alone for a bit and when she sees that she misses you she'll prob accidentally 'bump' in to you in a shop or other place she knows you go or drop you a text saying hi, if she does this then it's OK to text back but don't do it straight away wait a bit, and don't make you're self so available women often want what they cant have. if she doesn't 'bump' in to you or text to although it's hard admit it probably wasn't meant to be.
Reply:Your not doing anything wrong!! I speak from experience my boyfriend and i recently broke up. he screwed up and i made sure he knew it! we do the whole friend thing, and i date other men but get so jealous even if he talks to other women. she is probably doing what i do, and that is keeping you around as a "just in case." you have to realize if she is worth waiting around for and take the chance she might find someone else!
Reply:she's playing with you...let her go. if she really loves you she'll stop playing games if she thinks she can loose you for real
Reply:OK mate she's playing games with you and as your rightly said you know it! First things first do you really want to be with a girl that is running circle round you? Accepting flowers and gifts and not giving anything in return. I'm sorry mate your a real woose.
The fact of the matter is, your not getting any respect and how can any relationship work without respect? Don't get me wrong it's good to buy a girl flowers and gifts but do it within a relationship! Not to try and buy her love because it won't work!
There are plenty of ways you can deal with this and it is not sufficient to just say "she is a girl so she will like this" because summing up 50% of the planets population under one group is not possible. Only you know her!
Just take a step back mate, don't try so hard and let it develop naturally.
Alternatively you could just say to her your taking it any more and what does she want to do. Although to be honest chances are she will just say "I don't know" and it won't get you anywhere. You might feel better though =P
Good luck mate.
Reply:Move on...unless you want to play games all your life.
Reply:stop chasing her ok....let her have some space. you go do what you want to do and let her do what she wants to do too. she takes you for granted because you let her do it. stop it ok. if you want ther to come around....leave her alone awhile.
Reply:Maybe a romantic date. Think of something she would never predict that you'll do. This is my plan:
ASK HER OUT
1. Call her in the mornning and tell her to look nice
2. Get red %26amp; pink candles everywhere in ur house. Flowers and lots of it. A big teddy bear with a sign saying I MISS YOU Rose tulips in the bath tub. Rose tulips in the bedroom (incase you guys wanna you noe) Spray the room with a nice perfume
3. Get her a present and really think bout it WILL SHE LIKE IT? If its a maybe then DONT. If its ofcoure and YESSSS BUY IT
4. Call her and go like lets go out as in like u noe u wanna hang but really ur taking her to a nice restuatrant
5. Take her back into your house and suprise her with all the stuff you diid
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If you dont like this why dont you
1. Take her to ur house blah blah suprise her
She fall madly in love with you blah blah
2. Take her to the restaurant after so it can be a offical date
Reply:Make her make the next move. Go on with your life and if she really loves you she will come around.You can not stop your life just for her you need to move on she will have to catch up with you if she is willing. Good luck
Reply:your playing her game just move on dont wait till shes ready thats her problem
Reply:Trying to hard!
Reply:Tell her that she should get her act straight if she really likes you because you don't like these "games" she is playing..Tell her if she doesn't stop she's going to lose you and if she doesn't?Stay with your word and stop talking to her completely.Move on..When she calls back (she will) tell her you were honest with her and now you just don't want her because you don't want to deal with a confused person.She'll regret it!
Reply:show her the better side of u
Reply:In MY opinion only, if she's playing games with you and giving you excuses, than she may very well never be ready to commit to you.
Move on and live YOUR life....stop waiting for her. Maybe when she matures and when/if she makes the decision that you're the one she wants to be with, then she'll be ready to be serious.
Reply:Well, for one thing.............you can make a decision to Grow Up. Are you talking an ex-wife? or ex-girlfriend? You are playing games and acting immature..........you need relationship counseling and to be mature. The words such as Jealously, excuses, complaing and then trying to "buy" her with flowers and gifts is all a bunch of Bull----. Before you can have a mature, meaningful relatioship you must stop acting like a teenager and focus on your behavior!!
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how can i turn things around? i brought her flowers and gifts always compliment her etc etc but she s not budging
what am i doing wrong? please help me out
WOMEN! how do i get my x to changer her mind about us?
let her go..she's just testing you now...she doesnt want you, but no one else can have you...trust me, you will be better off without each other...sorry
Reply:You didn't do anything wrong, but you would be most benefitted by getting over it. There is a reason you broke up and once you start the on again off again trend, it will never end. Can you deal with that for the rest of your life? Then just be friends.
Reply:you're not doing anything wrong if you ask me she's playing games with you and as much as i hate to admit it most girl do this including me. leave her alone for a bit and when she sees that she misses you she'll prob accidentally 'bump' in to you in a shop or other place she knows you go or drop you a text saying hi, if she does this then it's OK to text back but don't do it straight away wait a bit, and don't make you're self so available women often want what they cant have. if she doesn't 'bump' in to you or text to although it's hard admit it probably wasn't meant to be.
Reply:Your not doing anything wrong!! I speak from experience my boyfriend and i recently broke up. he screwed up and i made sure he knew it! we do the whole friend thing, and i date other men but get so jealous even if he talks to other women. she is probably doing what i do, and that is keeping you around as a "just in case." you have to realize if she is worth waiting around for and take the chance she might find someone else!
Reply:she's playing with you...let her go. if she really loves you she'll stop playing games if she thinks she can loose you for real
Reply:OK mate she's playing games with you and as your rightly said you know it! First things first do you really want to be with a girl that is running circle round you? Accepting flowers and gifts and not giving anything in return. I'm sorry mate your a real woose.
The fact of the matter is, your not getting any respect and how can any relationship work without respect? Don't get me wrong it's good to buy a girl flowers and gifts but do it within a relationship! Not to try and buy her love because it won't work!
There are plenty of ways you can deal with this and it is not sufficient to just say "she is a girl so she will like this" because summing up 50% of the planets population under one group is not possible. Only you know her!
Just take a step back mate, don't try so hard and let it develop naturally.
Alternatively you could just say to her your taking it any more and what does she want to do. Although to be honest chances are she will just say "I don't know" and it won't get you anywhere. You might feel better though =P
Good luck mate.
Reply:Move on...unless you want to play games all your life.
Reply:stop chasing her ok....let her have some space. you go do what you want to do and let her do what she wants to do too. she takes you for granted because you let her do it. stop it ok. if you want ther to come around....leave her alone awhile.
Reply:Maybe a romantic date. Think of something she would never predict that you'll do. This is my plan:
ASK HER OUT
1. Call her in the mornning and tell her to look nice
2. Get red %26amp; pink candles everywhere in ur house. Flowers and lots of it. A big teddy bear with a sign saying I MISS YOU Rose tulips in the bath tub. Rose tulips in the bedroom (incase you guys wanna you noe) Spray the room with a nice perfume
3. Get her a present and really think bout it WILL SHE LIKE IT? If its a maybe then DONT. If its ofcoure and YESSSS BUY IT
4. Call her and go like lets go out as in like u noe u wanna hang but really ur taking her to a nice restuatrant
5. Take her back into your house and suprise her with all the stuff you diid
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~...
If you dont like this why dont you
1. Take her to ur house blah blah suprise her
She fall madly in love with you blah blah
2. Take her to the restaurant after so it can be a offical date
Reply:Make her make the next move. Go on with your life and if she really loves you she will come around.You can not stop your life just for her you need to move on she will have to catch up with you if she is willing. Good luck
Reply:your playing her game just move on dont wait till shes ready thats her problem
Reply:Trying to hard!
Reply:Tell her that she should get her act straight if she really likes you because you don't like these "games" she is playing..Tell her if she doesn't stop she's going to lose you and if she doesn't?Stay with your word and stop talking to her completely.Move on..When she calls back (she will) tell her you were honest with her and now you just don't want her because you don't want to deal with a confused person.She'll regret it!
Reply:show her the better side of u
Reply:In MY opinion only, if she's playing games with you and giving you excuses, than she may very well never be ready to commit to you.
Move on and live YOUR life....stop waiting for her. Maybe when she matures and when/if she makes the decision that you're the one she wants to be with, then she'll be ready to be serious.
Reply:Well, for one thing.............you can make a decision to Grow Up. Are you talking an ex-wife? or ex-girlfriend? You are playing games and acting immature..........you need relationship counseling and to be mature. The words such as Jealously, excuses, complaing and then trying to "buy" her with flowers and gifts is all a bunch of Bull----. Before you can have a mature, meaningful relatioship you must stop acting like a teenager and focus on your behavior!!
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How do you win a girls heart??
plz dont give me answers like flowers and gifts. ive tried that and failed with this girl.
How do you win a girls heart??
Do you know how to dance? Ask her out to dance with you. Guys who dance are very attractive to gals. Remember to approach her like a gentleman and ask her for a dance. Then hold her hand gently and move smoothly. When you finish, give her a single gentle kiss on the hand while gazing in her eyes. If that doesn't make her realize how much you like her, she may just not be the one for you. Good luck with whatever you do. =%26gt;
Reply:Some girls arent easily pleased you just have to be yourself and be confident in yourself. Girls like confidence. Go up and tell her that you like her the worst that can happen is that she doesnt like you and you are better off knowing the answer then pinning over her for no reason.
Reply:try being your self and showing an interest in what she likes
Reply:she may not be meant for you. why don't you try another
Reply:show intrest in her, do wut she wants 2 do!
Reply:just be yourself.
Reply:Being that i am a girl I would have to say that every girl loves a guy who speaks his mind and that has a more kinder gentler side to him. Show her that you would do anything for her. Take her shopping for no reason at all. Give her the attention she wants but doesn't say because she expects you to know. talk to her, see what her interests are and go from there.
Reply:a carefully thought and carefully planned out seduction-all girls love romance and adventure
(:
Reply:Always remember the song that says..."You say it best, when you say nothing at all" Alison Kraus sings it. Make her feel special. Show her how good a friend you can be...then move slowly.
Find out what makes her uncomfortable and what makes her comfortable.....do the right things! Follow her cues, cook a special dinner for her some night, or sit with her on some rainy night and watch her favorite movie. Tell her everyday that she's beautiful.
Make her feel special!
Reply:Cut her open and find it beneath the boobs
Reply:If her heart is up for auction, to win you'll need to be the highest bidder. If you're in need of a heart transplant, you'll need to be high up on the waiting list AND be a good cross-type match.
On a more serious note: sometimes the ones we love the most don't love us back. There's nothing we can do about it.
But don't be discouraged. Even if you don't find someone who feel you love as much as this woman - or if you never find one who loves you as much as you love them, you're still better off.
A poet named Auden wrote some lines that sum it up:
"If equal affection cannot be, let the more loving one be me."
So, go out there and do your best. Love romantically and daringly, and kindly. And if this girl doesn't love you back, she's the one who's missing out.
Reply:score more points than the competition bfore the game is ova
(score more points)meaning do things that mean more than what the next man is doing
(bfore the game is ova)meaning bfore she chooses him ova you. its like competing for 1st string in a sport except you not on the same team make him sit the bench so hustle and play smart coach will know who to put in the game
Reply:by being nice,polite and respectable to her. a good sense of humor helps. be a gentlemen. also tell her how you feel,the worst that could happen is you will make a new friend loland good luck.
Reply:always tell the truth and never be a perv
Reply:hahhahah....
but at least you've tried it....
ahm... try to get her number...
if ti will not work.....the only way is that....your determinationa to win her heart.....
that's it...show to ehr that you really carew for her....
that you really love her...
Reply:maybe she is not 4 for u
Reply:if you have already tried and failed with flowers, etc. then maybe she isn't into you
Reply:You really can't "win" a girl's heart. Winning is accomplished in games. You must EARN her heart.
Since all women are different, the very best advice I can give you is to pay attention to the sweet things she does for you. If she isn't doing anything sweet for you because you haven't earned her heart yet, pay attention to what she does for others. Evaluate how she behaves in her closest of friendships and return to her the very best qualities that you see her giving to others- whether it's something as abstract as honesty, sincerity, true friendship, devotion OR it may be that you observe more tangible things she does for others.
Most people give to others what they secretly or unconsciously desire for themselves. For example, if a girl writes you a little note for some reason, then it's likely that she would really enjoy you passing her a note or a card if for no reason other than to say "Hi. How are you?" If she compliments you often, you would be wise to make sure she knows how attractive you think she is.
I'd be curious to know the situation...since you've failed and you've given her flowers and gifts.
Often, if guys try too hard, girls are pushed farther away. If you want to give me more details, I might be able to give you a custom answer. Click on my user name and then select "contact member." Fill me in and we'll see if we can't get this girl for you. :)
Reply:be yourself...just show her by your words and your silences how you care for her...but don't be smothering or seem too eager...let her think you are interested, but not desparate...but put yourself out there enough for her to know you like her...
Reply:Girls heart are not a prize to be won first off...when you give up the wheel everything seems to fall into place...like most said just be you an dont be afraid of who you are with all you have to offer she'll see an all will fall into place as it should
Reply:just look at her eyes, and stay quiet.
Reply:Okay, A way to a girls heart isn’t that hard. IDK why you guys think its so hard. Well all you have to do. To get a girl to like you, Is to be YOU and to be sweet. Make her feel like she is the only person in the world for you. But don’t be to needy, Girls hate needy guys. But tell her you love her, she so cute, and that she’s funny, and that she kind, and just little things like ask her if she wants a pop first. And say I will pay here. And just little things like that. But to win a girls heart is not though gifts!! WAIT will some girls are like that but not a real one like you want. One that can love you for just being you. And if this doesn’t work and she still doesn’t like you. Than she is not the girl for you. And you need to find someone else. To full you heart up with love. Because you seem like a sweet guy. Oh yeah and one more thing not say “lets have sex” first girls HATE horny GUYS don’t we girls. And let her say she want to have sex because will girls are just as bad as a guy but we can kinda control your self but hell a girl will say it soon so don’t say it first.
~Nicole~
Reply:1. try to always make a good jokes?? (Women think funny guy is sexy)
2. Don't show her that you crazy about her. Sometimes it makes women not comfortable.
3. Talk like usual. Don't "acting"
4. Be patient (until she feel comfortable with you). Say that u really like her
5. Remember that love is not just about 2 sec. But it need some time
Reply:jus be true to her dont give her n e douts about u.
Reply:maybe she not right 4 u
Reply:I would have to say is sent a lot of time with her or tell her how u feel about her.
Reply:be your self and make sure that she knows that you like her and that your intentions are true. It sounds korney but it works.
Reply:Ignore her. I mean move on. You may not like this answer, but in the long run it is for the best. Look at this as a business decision. You have a limited number of resources, i.e. time, money, energy. Why waste it on one big fat "NO" from a girl among millions?
Trust me allocate your time wisely. It saves money and energy for the real big fish. Take a deep breath, flush her from your mind. I am not saying to forget her because she is a good experience for the future. I am saying remove your wants and desires and place your focus on multiple others.
Probably the most important thing to remember here is to go about life making connections, finding things in common, getting over fears in other words skill building. If you stay away from thoughts of love or marriage or whatever is ingrained in your head and just focus on learning from others or about others, everything has a way of falling into place when you least expect it too.
Don't forget to show a little backbone. God gave you a brain and a backbone, so quick mopping around, stand up straight, concentrate on something or someone else and learn from your experiences.
Soles
How do you win a girls heart??
Do you know how to dance? Ask her out to dance with you. Guys who dance are very attractive to gals. Remember to approach her like a gentleman and ask her for a dance. Then hold her hand gently and move smoothly. When you finish, give her a single gentle kiss on the hand while gazing in her eyes. If that doesn't make her realize how much you like her, she may just not be the one for you. Good luck with whatever you do. =%26gt;
Reply:Some girls arent easily pleased you just have to be yourself and be confident in yourself. Girls like confidence. Go up and tell her that you like her the worst that can happen is that she doesnt like you and you are better off knowing the answer then pinning over her for no reason.
Reply:try being your self and showing an interest in what she likes
Reply:she may not be meant for you. why don't you try another
Reply:show intrest in her, do wut she wants 2 do!
Reply:just be yourself.
Reply:Being that i am a girl I would have to say that every girl loves a guy who speaks his mind and that has a more kinder gentler side to him. Show her that you would do anything for her. Take her shopping for no reason at all. Give her the attention she wants but doesn't say because she expects you to know. talk to her, see what her interests are and go from there.
Reply:a carefully thought and carefully planned out seduction-all girls love romance and adventure
(:
Reply:Always remember the song that says..."You say it best, when you say nothing at all" Alison Kraus sings it. Make her feel special. Show her how good a friend you can be...then move slowly.
Find out what makes her uncomfortable and what makes her comfortable.....do the right things! Follow her cues, cook a special dinner for her some night, or sit with her on some rainy night and watch her favorite movie. Tell her everyday that she's beautiful.
Make her feel special!
Reply:Cut her open and find it beneath the boobs
Reply:If her heart is up for auction, to win you'll need to be the highest bidder. If you're in need of a heart transplant, you'll need to be high up on the waiting list AND be a good cross-type match.
On a more serious note: sometimes the ones we love the most don't love us back. There's nothing we can do about it.
But don't be discouraged. Even if you don't find someone who feel you love as much as this woman - or if you never find one who loves you as much as you love them, you're still better off.
A poet named Auden wrote some lines that sum it up:
"If equal affection cannot be, let the more loving one be me."
So, go out there and do your best. Love romantically and daringly, and kindly. And if this girl doesn't love you back, she's the one who's missing out.
Reply:score more points than the competition bfore the game is ova
(score more points)meaning do things that mean more than what the next man is doing
(bfore the game is ova)meaning bfore she chooses him ova you. its like competing for 1st string in a sport except you not on the same team make him sit the bench so hustle and play smart coach will know who to put in the game
Reply:by being nice,polite and respectable to her. a good sense of humor helps. be a gentlemen. also tell her how you feel,the worst that could happen is you will make a new friend loland good luck.
Reply:always tell the truth and never be a perv
Reply:hahhahah....
but at least you've tried it....
ahm... try to get her number...
if ti will not work.....the only way is that....your determinationa to win her heart.....
that's it...show to ehr that you really carew for her....
that you really love her...
Reply:maybe she is not 4 for u
Reply:if you have already tried and failed with flowers, etc. then maybe she isn't into you
Reply:You really can't "win" a girl's heart. Winning is accomplished in games. You must EARN her heart.
Since all women are different, the very best advice I can give you is to pay attention to the sweet things she does for you. If she isn't doing anything sweet for you because you haven't earned her heart yet, pay attention to what she does for others. Evaluate how she behaves in her closest of friendships and return to her the very best qualities that you see her giving to others- whether it's something as abstract as honesty, sincerity, true friendship, devotion OR it may be that you observe more tangible things she does for others.
Most people give to others what they secretly or unconsciously desire for themselves. For example, if a girl writes you a little note for some reason, then it's likely that she would really enjoy you passing her a note or a card if for no reason other than to say "Hi. How are you?" If she compliments you often, you would be wise to make sure she knows how attractive you think she is.
I'd be curious to know the situation...since you've failed and you've given her flowers and gifts.
Often, if guys try too hard, girls are pushed farther away. If you want to give me more details, I might be able to give you a custom answer. Click on my user name and then select "contact member." Fill me in and we'll see if we can't get this girl for you. :)
Reply:be yourself...just show her by your words and your silences how you care for her...but don't be smothering or seem too eager...let her think you are interested, but not desparate...but put yourself out there enough for her to know you like her...
Reply:Girls heart are not a prize to be won first off...when you give up the wheel everything seems to fall into place...like most said just be you an dont be afraid of who you are with all you have to offer she'll see an all will fall into place as it should
Reply:just look at her eyes, and stay quiet.
Reply:Okay, A way to a girls heart isn’t that hard. IDK why you guys think its so hard. Well all you have to do. To get a girl to like you, Is to be YOU and to be sweet. Make her feel like she is the only person in the world for you. But don’t be to needy, Girls hate needy guys. But tell her you love her, she so cute, and that she’s funny, and that she kind, and just little things like ask her if she wants a pop first. And say I will pay here. And just little things like that. But to win a girls heart is not though gifts!! WAIT will some girls are like that but not a real one like you want. One that can love you for just being you. And if this doesn’t work and she still doesn’t like you. Than she is not the girl for you. And you need to find someone else. To full you heart up with love. Because you seem like a sweet guy. Oh yeah and one more thing not say “lets have sex” first girls HATE horny GUYS don’t we girls. And let her say she want to have sex because will girls are just as bad as a guy but we can kinda control your self but hell a girl will say it soon so don’t say it first.
~Nicole~
Reply:1. try to always make a good jokes?? (Women think funny guy is sexy)
2. Don't show her that you crazy about her. Sometimes it makes women not comfortable.
3. Talk like usual. Don't "acting"
4. Be patient (until she feel comfortable with you). Say that u really like her
5. Remember that love is not just about 2 sec. But it need some time
Reply:jus be true to her dont give her n e douts about u.
Reply:maybe she not right 4 u
Reply:I would have to say is sent a lot of time with her or tell her how u feel about her.
Reply:be your self and make sure that she knows that you like her and that your intentions are true. It sounds korney but it works.
Reply:Ignore her. I mean move on. You may not like this answer, but in the long run it is for the best. Look at this as a business decision. You have a limited number of resources, i.e. time, money, energy. Why waste it on one big fat "NO" from a girl among millions?
Trust me allocate your time wisely. It saves money and energy for the real big fish. Take a deep breath, flush her from your mind. I am not saying to forget her because she is a good experience for the future. I am saying remove your wants and desires and place your focus on multiple others.
Probably the most important thing to remember here is to go about life making connections, finding things in common, getting over fears in other words skill building. If you stay away from thoughts of love or marriage or whatever is ingrained in your head and just focus on learning from others or about others, everything has a way of falling into place when you least expect it too.
Don't forget to show a little backbone. God gave you a brain and a backbone, so quick mopping around, stand up straight, concentrate on something or someone else and learn from your experiences.
Soles
Should on put my girlfriend on a Mixed Variable Random Reinforcement Schedule?
I understand from my Psychology unit PS100 that rewarding animals and humans randomly is more effective in them continuing their appropriate behaviour towards you.
This is the theory of B.F.Skinner
Logically it would seem if I only reward her randomly she will be more likely to be want to be with me.
For example only give her flowers/compliments/gifts at random times- not every Friday or at some regular time. Keep her hanging on to get the reward.
This type of reinforcement schedule is what keeps gamblers addicted to poker machines-they never know when the reward is going to come.
So what do you think???
Should on put my girlfriend on a Mixed Variable Random Reinforcement Schedule?
It's called playing hard to get, or blowing hot and cold.
And yes, it will work to keep her interested - for a very limited time! Ultimately, people need to feel that they can rely on their partners, or no trust can be built. But certainly, keeping your relationship fresh with a few surprises now and then does no harm at all!
Reply:Lol! I think it will work. Try it and get back with us.
Reply:First of all try drop using the psychology bit on your girlfriend. She isn't an animal but a lady who wants to be treated honestly not played. Of course women love to get flowers etc at random times and not just on birthdays or Christmas. If she is with you for the gifts then you shouldn't be with her in the first place.
Reply:so thats where im going wrong
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This is the theory of B.F.Skinner
Logically it would seem if I only reward her randomly she will be more likely to be want to be with me.
For example only give her flowers/compliments/gifts at random times- not every Friday or at some regular time. Keep her hanging on to get the reward.
This type of reinforcement schedule is what keeps gamblers addicted to poker machines-they never know when the reward is going to come.
So what do you think???
Should on put my girlfriend on a Mixed Variable Random Reinforcement Schedule?
It's called playing hard to get, or blowing hot and cold.
And yes, it will work to keep her interested - for a very limited time! Ultimately, people need to feel that they can rely on their partners, or no trust can be built. But certainly, keeping your relationship fresh with a few surprises now and then does no harm at all!
Reply:Lol! I think it will work. Try it and get back with us.
Reply:First of all try drop using the psychology bit on your girlfriend. She isn't an animal but a lady who wants to be treated honestly not played. Of course women love to get flowers etc at random times and not just on birthdays or Christmas. If she is with you for the gifts then you shouldn't be with her in the first place.
Reply:so thats where im going wrong
www.poetry.com
If you hadn't seen your bf/gf in a while and your picking them up?
at the airport, what would you do to make them feel extra special and happy to see you? No flowers or gifts stuff.
If you hadn't seen your bf/gf in a while and your picking them up?
Hugs and kisses? Thats s pretty pic of you, your smile should be enough.
Reply:simple things often work the best!!
give him/her a big warm hug..a kiss....and whole heartedly tell them how much u missed them...and how happy u are to see him/her again.
u can plan something extra special in the next few days if possible.....depending on what his/her tastes are.
hope that helps
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If you hadn't seen your bf/gf in a while and your picking them up?
Hugs and kisses? Thats s pretty pic of you, your smile should be enough.
Reply:simple things often work the best!!
give him/her a big warm hug..a kiss....and whole heartedly tell them how much u missed them...and how happy u are to see him/her again.
u can plan something extra special in the next few days if possible.....depending on what his/her tastes are.
hope that helps
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Valentines Day~The Color of L-O-V-E?
Every February, across the country, candy, flowers, and gifts are exchanged between loved ones, all in the name of St. Valentine.
What would you like on Valentines Day?
I would like to come home to a home cooked meal that I didn't have to prepare and a glass of red wine, soft music playing in the back ground and in candle light.
I would like a full body massage and than relax in a hot tub filled with rose petals.
Valentines Day~The Color of L-O-V-E?
I would LOVE to have what you are having! Add a babysitter for my kids....You go girl!!! Hope it comes true for both of us
but you appear to be the more probable candidate!
I hate Valentines Day! It sucks for me.
Reply:To ACTUALLY HAVE SOMEONE There for me .. Unconditionally LOVE me for me.
SADLY ... the REALITY is that this Empty-Nesting Single Retiree has been ALONE for the Vast Majority of my Adult Life (and during that short disaster of a marriage to an abusive,violent sociopath -- I was ALSO ALONE, sometimes deployed/TDY -- but ALWAYS Alone) ....
Raised my two children out of that short disaster of a marriage as a Long Term Single Parent (ALONE .. no help at all, and, sadly .. as selfish, hormonally raging and self-destructive, wrong-choices young adults they willingly helped the Ex BURGLARIZE my HOME once again in August 2006 -- and haven't even tried to get in touch with me since then ... FORGOTTEN ME completely -- the one who CARED enough to do everything, sacrifice all so that they WOULD LIVE) ...
and the one I was dating last summer (I FINALLY Tried dating once again after 2 decades ... and who came to my HOME During the Holidays) .. did not have it within HIM to actually LOVE me Unconditionally -- nor was he willing to hold me or even not run away (and he knew I had flashbacks/nightmares from the abusive short marriage). He couldn't even hold me or be in any way sympathetic to me ... and just turned his back on me.
There will be NO ONE for me on 14 Feb 2008 -- and that is for certain. So ... I go forward ALONE and will be just passing another day of life like every other one has passed -- doing my chores, doing my work, paying bills, and just passing time.
Reply:And you don't have someone who'll do ALL this and _more_ for you! Lets not forget them kneeling at your feet carefully removing your shoes and _-*MASSAGING*-_ your sore tired feet! Not to mention the all inclusive all over body _-*MASSAGE*-_! no..
With a fire roaring in the fireplace for a nice ambiance.
Vincent Reagan
Hawkeye
vincengreenbay: YIM
Near Birmingham, AL now.
:)
;)
Reply:I'll have whatyour having except, I want to paint your portrait as well
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What would you like on Valentines Day?
I would like to come home to a home cooked meal that I didn't have to prepare and a glass of red wine, soft music playing in the back ground and in candle light.
I would like a full body massage and than relax in a hot tub filled with rose petals.
Valentines Day~The Color of L-O-V-E?
I would LOVE to have what you are having! Add a babysitter for my kids....You go girl!!! Hope it comes true for both of us
but you appear to be the more probable candidate!
I hate Valentines Day! It sucks for me.
Reply:To ACTUALLY HAVE SOMEONE There for me .. Unconditionally LOVE me for me.
SADLY ... the REALITY is that this Empty-Nesting Single Retiree has been ALONE for the Vast Majority of my Adult Life (and during that short disaster of a marriage to an abusive,violent sociopath -- I was ALSO ALONE, sometimes deployed/TDY -- but ALWAYS Alone) ....
Raised my two children out of that short disaster of a marriage as a Long Term Single Parent (ALONE .. no help at all, and, sadly .. as selfish, hormonally raging and self-destructive, wrong-choices young adults they willingly helped the Ex BURGLARIZE my HOME once again in August 2006 -- and haven't even tried to get in touch with me since then ... FORGOTTEN ME completely -- the one who CARED enough to do everything, sacrifice all so that they WOULD LIVE) ...
and the one I was dating last summer (I FINALLY Tried dating once again after 2 decades ... and who came to my HOME During the Holidays) .. did not have it within HIM to actually LOVE me Unconditionally -- nor was he willing to hold me or even not run away (and he knew I had flashbacks/nightmares from the abusive short marriage). He couldn't even hold me or be in any way sympathetic to me ... and just turned his back on me.
There will be NO ONE for me on 14 Feb 2008 -- and that is for certain. So ... I go forward ALONE and will be just passing another day of life like every other one has passed -- doing my chores, doing my work, paying bills, and just passing time.
Reply:And you don't have someone who'll do ALL this and _more_ for you! Lets not forget them kneeling at your feet carefully removing your shoes and _-*MASSAGING*-_ your sore tired feet! Not to mention the all inclusive all over body _-*MASSAGE*-_! no..
With a fire roaring in the fireplace for a nice ambiance.
Vincent Reagan
Hawkeye
vincengreenbay: YIM
Near Birmingham, AL now.
:)
;)
Reply:I'll have whatyour having except, I want to paint your portrait as well
genealogy mormon
Is it ok to go on vacation without your husband because we argue a lot and i feel like i need a break?
FROM EACHOTHER BECAUSE I FEEL DON'T MISSE EACHOTHER ANYMORE IS LIKE I DON'T WANNA GET HOME SO WE DON'T ARGUE.IM GOING WITH MY BEST FRIEND TO SAN DIEGO HE DON'T WANT ME TO GO SO AS SOON HE SAW THE DAY GETTING CLOSER AND CLOSER HE CHANGE AND STARTED TO BRING FLOWERS AND GIFTS. THE THING IS THAT NOW I FEEL MISSERABLE AND LIKE IM A BAD WIFE BECAUSE HE SAYS HE WOULD NEVER DO THAT TO ME WHAT SHOULD I DO WE BEING MARRIED FOR 5 YEARS NO KIDS
Is it ok to go on vacation without your husband because we argue a lot and i feel like i need a break?
Take your vacation/break, he is either realizing that he's been a jerk and trying to make amends or he's just being a jerk and trying to control you. If he's trying to make amends things should be better after you get back, if not things will get worse. I think you know what to do after that...
Reply:Tell him that you are tire of arguing and that you need to talk things out not argue. I think you should get away for a while to think and this will give him time to think too. When you get back you can start fresh and new. This break will do you good and maybe him too. Tell him that you aren't mad at him but you love him and you want your marriage to work and by getting away you can relax and come back fresh and new.
Reply:take your vaca. sounds as if you need it. this is just his way of trying to make you feel bad.
Reply:YES! We sometimes need a break from our spouses just like we do with the kids. Have fun and you never know, absence makes the heart grow fonder, *wink* *wink*
Reply:It seems to me that you two need to work things out. You guys need to find out what you are doing wrong. If you really care for each other it is time to try and salvage the marriage. I wouldn't think that a vacation on your own would change anything, on the contrary, it could get matters worst. I would suggest for you two to go on a vacation, something like a second honeymoon. It could be that your major problem is the lack of communication. The worst thing a couple could do when having problems is to run from the problem. You need to find out what the problem is so you two can try and fix it. I wish you good luck.
Reply:honey...Im going to give you some spiritual advice so forgive me in advance if it offends you. Biblically, you just dont do this. The only time you are supposed to be 'apart' from your husband is for prayer and fasting (and that SURELY isnt what's happening in Diego)...and you only do THAT for a short time and then quickly come back together lest you be tempted to sin against your marriage. You guys have been arguing...OK...maybe you both need a break; a change of scenery...some rest...together. If you need some room, maybe opt to double up with your bestfriend and HER husband, and then you can have some girl time away from the guys. If your bestfriend is NOT married, then you are setting yourself up for problems because she is single...and she's going to draw single men..and you are going to feel tempted to ACT single when you are with her..(keep it real-you know its true!). As nice as SD is (Im a native so I KNOW), I wouldnt suggest coming out here 'with the girls' as a married woman. That feeling you are getting is your conscience...because deep down, you know that going to SD is opening up a door to trouble. Resist the temptation my sister....Come with your husband instead.
Reply:You need a break. Have one. If your husband's peace offerings are genuine then they will be there when you get back. If not you will then know he was insincere. You can deal with that if and when it happens.
Reply:Go, have fun. He is just afraid of losing you so now he is acting right. Everyone knows San Diego is an awesome city with LOTS of attractive men. I am sure your husband is feeling insecure and a bit jealous. The time apart will do you both some good. He can see what he has and what he may lose if things don't get better for you two.
Reply:Better a Vacation then living in different houses like me and my man. I hate it so much. Good Luck time apart may be good. A vacation is a great idea go get your mind straight. Good luck.
Reply:Go on the vacation! Absolutely! You already have it planned, you may have already purchased tickets/ hotel/ rental car etc. If you don't go, you'll regret it later. Your husband will be there when you get back. Definitely go!!!!
Reply:only if you are okay with him taking his own vacation too
Reply:You probably shouldn't go at this time , as you wouldn't enjoy your stay because of these conditions......elisayn
Reply:just go and relax yourself
have a break, a quiet time on your own
ask this question to yourself - what do I want now?
else seek help from counselling for both
Reply:YOUR RELATIONSHIP SOUNDS LIKE MINE!!! MY WIFE LEAVES FOR EXTENDED PERIODS OF TIME TO VISIT HER FAMILY...ALWAYS HAS AND IT HAS HURT OUR MARRIAGE. SHE HAS BEEN GONE FOR AS LONG AS 2 MONTHS...SO WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO? WE ARGUE ALL THE TIME, DON'T TALK TO EACH OTHER, AND CAN NEVER RESOLVE ANY ISSUES THAT WE HAVE....THEY ARE SWEPT UNDER THE RUG. PLUS OUR SEX LIFE IS UNAPPEALLING...I BELIEVE WE ARE HEADED FOR DIVORCE...ONCE IT'S BROKE...IT'S VERY HARD TO FIX IT. NO IT'S NOT WRONG TO VACATION WITHOUT HIM...BUT DON'T OVER DO IT....YOU MAY FIND THAT HE'S FOUND SOME1 ELSE
flower
Is it ok to go on vacation without your husband because we argue a lot and i feel like i need a break?
Take your vacation/break, he is either realizing that he's been a jerk and trying to make amends or he's just being a jerk and trying to control you. If he's trying to make amends things should be better after you get back, if not things will get worse. I think you know what to do after that...
Reply:Tell him that you are tire of arguing and that you need to talk things out not argue. I think you should get away for a while to think and this will give him time to think too. When you get back you can start fresh and new. This break will do you good and maybe him too. Tell him that you aren't mad at him but you love him and you want your marriage to work and by getting away you can relax and come back fresh and new.
Reply:take your vaca. sounds as if you need it. this is just his way of trying to make you feel bad.
Reply:YES! We sometimes need a break from our spouses just like we do with the kids. Have fun and you never know, absence makes the heart grow fonder, *wink* *wink*
Reply:It seems to me that you two need to work things out. You guys need to find out what you are doing wrong. If you really care for each other it is time to try and salvage the marriage. I wouldn't think that a vacation on your own would change anything, on the contrary, it could get matters worst. I would suggest for you two to go on a vacation, something like a second honeymoon. It could be that your major problem is the lack of communication. The worst thing a couple could do when having problems is to run from the problem. You need to find out what the problem is so you two can try and fix it. I wish you good luck.
Reply:honey...Im going to give you some spiritual advice so forgive me in advance if it offends you. Biblically, you just dont do this. The only time you are supposed to be 'apart' from your husband is for prayer and fasting (and that SURELY isnt what's happening in Diego)...and you only do THAT for a short time and then quickly come back together lest you be tempted to sin against your marriage. You guys have been arguing...OK...maybe you both need a break; a change of scenery...some rest...together. If you need some room, maybe opt to double up with your bestfriend and HER husband, and then you can have some girl time away from the guys. If your bestfriend is NOT married, then you are setting yourself up for problems because she is single...and she's going to draw single men..and you are going to feel tempted to ACT single when you are with her..(keep it real-you know its true!). As nice as SD is (Im a native so I KNOW), I wouldnt suggest coming out here 'with the girls' as a married woman. That feeling you are getting is your conscience...because deep down, you know that going to SD is opening up a door to trouble. Resist the temptation my sister....Come with your husband instead.
Reply:You need a break. Have one. If your husband's peace offerings are genuine then they will be there when you get back. If not you will then know he was insincere. You can deal with that if and when it happens.
Reply:Go, have fun. He is just afraid of losing you so now he is acting right. Everyone knows San Diego is an awesome city with LOTS of attractive men. I am sure your husband is feeling insecure and a bit jealous. The time apart will do you both some good. He can see what he has and what he may lose if things don't get better for you two.
Reply:Better a Vacation then living in different houses like me and my man. I hate it so much. Good Luck time apart may be good. A vacation is a great idea go get your mind straight. Good luck.
Reply:Go on the vacation! Absolutely! You already have it planned, you may have already purchased tickets/ hotel/ rental car etc. If you don't go, you'll regret it later. Your husband will be there when you get back. Definitely go!!!!
Reply:only if you are okay with him taking his own vacation too
Reply:You probably shouldn't go at this time , as you wouldn't enjoy your stay because of these conditions......elisayn
Reply:just go and relax yourself
have a break, a quiet time on your own
ask this question to yourself - what do I want now?
else seek help from counselling for both
Reply:YOUR RELATIONSHIP SOUNDS LIKE MINE!!! MY WIFE LEAVES FOR EXTENDED PERIODS OF TIME TO VISIT HER FAMILY...ALWAYS HAS AND IT HAS HURT OUR MARRIAGE. SHE HAS BEEN GONE FOR AS LONG AS 2 MONTHS...SO WHAT AM I SUPPOSED TO DO? WE ARGUE ALL THE TIME, DON'T TALK TO EACH OTHER, AND CAN NEVER RESOLVE ANY ISSUES THAT WE HAVE....THEY ARE SWEPT UNDER THE RUG. PLUS OUR SEX LIFE IS UNAPPEALLING...I BELIEVE WE ARE HEADED FOR DIVORCE...ONCE IT'S BROKE...IT'S VERY HARD TO FIX IT. NO IT'S NOT WRONG TO VACATION WITHOUT HIM...BUT DON'T OVER DO IT....YOU MAY FIND THAT HE'S FOUND SOME1 ELSE
flower
Need advice about dating a younger man .. ??
I have a younger boyfriend, early 20's, ( I'm in my 30's) and while he is very sweet, and attentive, and affectionate, he is also kinda selfish because a long time girlfriend broke his heart, and he has up this brick wall, he is also really cheap with money. he claims that he is not used to buying flowers and gifts for women, or spending money for dates.
So is this typical for a guy his age ? should I give him time to learn to open up, and be more giving, or should I just move on, and date someone closer to my age that already has the experience with women ?
Need advice about dating a younger man .. ??
He sounds immature...he is not use to buying flowers and gifts for women, or spending money for dates??? Are you serious? What a lame *ss excuse for not wanting to spend a little money on you.....If I were you...I would move on.....It really isn't so much the age difference...as it is the age difference at this particular time in his life.
By the way...there is 7 years difference between my hubby and I....I am 41 and he is 34.....we met when he was 32.....I think a man in his 20's is too young for a woman in her 30's....because they tend to be immature.....
Reply:Well, I'd say that the selfishness is common in 20-somethings.
The "brick wall" is a person-to-person thing that can change over time.
The cheap with money is definitely a person-to-person thing that will likely NOT change. If you want him spending his money on you (what are your economics like? Do you make more money than he? Do you expect him to buy all the time?) and he won't do it, I don't think that's going to change, even if he's 30 and you're 45.
Reply:This isn't an age thing - this is a personality thing. (I got married at 30 to a 23 year old man.) Your boyfriend sounds like a LOSER. Whenever guys blame their behavior on a previous breakup that is a PROBLEM! They should never be selfish and they should never be cheap. Conservative possibly, but never stingy. Typical behavior for a guy in his 20s is to spoil you rotten and worship the ground you walk on.
I definitely suggest that you MOVE ON - but don't think you need an older guy. Once a guy hits his 20s, age doesn't necessarily determine who is more mature. My husband is way more mature than all my ex boyfriends who were in their 30s. By then it's just personality traits - who is loving, generous, kind, and focused on you. Again, whenever a man has to tell you about his prevous relationships and if he ever makes himself out to be the victim - WALK AWAY. You don't ever want a man who whines and/or who doesn't take full responsibility for his actions and choices. That leads to another big heap of trouble.
Reply:Two part answer. Part one - If you had your heart broken would you jump back into another relationship with someone and be totally trusting of that person? The male ego is a fragile thing. No matter how tough we appear to be on the outside we're soft and mushy on the inside. Talk to him, show him you're on his side but don't push to hard. He will come around if you let him feel secure with you. Part two - What is typical? I don't think there is such a thing. And why is it important that he spend money? Some of the best dates I've had were walking hand in hand along a beach, flying a kite together, building a sand castle, feeding stale bread to the ducks, etc. It's not how much you spend it's who you spend the time with that's important. Anyone can throw a bunch of money around and buy a good time but it takes a real man to make a good time. Also let me suggest that you chip in half the time. Your getting half the enjoyment out of being together, why not foot half the expense? He might just be a little cautious these days and not want to break the bank if he's just going to get hurt again. If he's sweet, attentive and affectionate it sounds like he's a pretty cool guy. I'm surprised you'd even consider tossing him aside. Oh...having experience with women usually only creates bad habits. Learn and grow together...the fun is in the journey not the destination. Above all else talk. Do not judge, just talk.
Reply:Advice about dating a man in his 20's......dont do it.
I am 23 and had literally increased the minimum age to 30 about a year ago after all the guys within my age range were huge disappointments. They all wanted to party or hang with the guys every other night, get stupidly drunk, and had no idea what romance was. Granted, there is that rare gem in rough that may a great guy-but I couldn't find him. The main guy that I dated for six years actually was probably the worst. He sounds exactly like the guy that you are with. Funny thing was-when we first started dating when I was 14 and all the way up until he was about 21 (legal drinking age) he was a great guy. He spoiled me and was affectionate....then all of a sudden it was like a light switch was flipped and he turned into this....well, idiot. He was too cheap to take me to dinner, but going out with the boys every other night to the bar and dropping a $100 every time was no big deal.
I suggest to move on. If he really loves you and cares, it might take you leaving to make him step up to the plate and mature.
Reply:if this is the only fault in the relationship then I suggest try working with him a little bit on this subject/issue
Reply:Honestly? I don't think there is a future in this relationship. At the end of the day, you two are going at different speeds. I dated a younger guy when I was 34 he was 26 - it just doesn't work. Its ok if you just want a bit of fun for a short time, but if you're looking for a long term partner, its a no-no; its too unstable; people often change a lot between 20 and 30. Ultimately, you are investing into a r/ship that is almost certainly going to end. Can you afford to waste several years on an emotional dead end? He will get to a point where he wants someone younger. I think he has also turned to you because he wants a certain safety and security after the last r/ship and very often guys choose an older woman when things have gone wrong in their love lives; it happened to me. Ultimately, in my case, he went back to his ex.
The years pass very quickly; do you want to still be single in 3 or 5 years time assuming it lasts that long? If it doesn't look like it will last that long, what's point in any event? I would strongly advise moving on. The money thing is just a side issue..
Reply:yea my boyfriend was like that also he doesnt like spending money on women but dates he spend money...but my boy is only a year younger than i am...give him time and eventually he will change how long you two have been goin out anyways?? my boy change on our first month monthsary...:p give him time and he will change...but it depends how long you two have been going out?!?
Reply:I say if u stay with the man ur dating now ur gonna have to have patients with him form what ur saying he has a brick wall up from his past if ur willing to wait thats fine but remember he can also use his ex as an excuse for the he acts just get him self out of trouble and spending money
genealogy mormon
So is this typical for a guy his age ? should I give him time to learn to open up, and be more giving, or should I just move on, and date someone closer to my age that already has the experience with women ?
Need advice about dating a younger man .. ??
He sounds immature...he is not use to buying flowers and gifts for women, or spending money for dates??? Are you serious? What a lame *ss excuse for not wanting to spend a little money on you.....If I were you...I would move on.....It really isn't so much the age difference...as it is the age difference at this particular time in his life.
By the way...there is 7 years difference between my hubby and I....I am 41 and he is 34.....we met when he was 32.....I think a man in his 20's is too young for a woman in her 30's....because they tend to be immature.....
Reply:Well, I'd say that the selfishness is common in 20-somethings.
The "brick wall" is a person-to-person thing that can change over time.
The cheap with money is definitely a person-to-person thing that will likely NOT change. If you want him spending his money on you (what are your economics like? Do you make more money than he? Do you expect him to buy all the time?) and he won't do it, I don't think that's going to change, even if he's 30 and you're 45.
Reply:This isn't an age thing - this is a personality thing. (I got married at 30 to a 23 year old man.) Your boyfriend sounds like a LOSER. Whenever guys blame their behavior on a previous breakup that is a PROBLEM! They should never be selfish and they should never be cheap. Conservative possibly, but never stingy. Typical behavior for a guy in his 20s is to spoil you rotten and worship the ground you walk on.
I definitely suggest that you MOVE ON - but don't think you need an older guy. Once a guy hits his 20s, age doesn't necessarily determine who is more mature. My husband is way more mature than all my ex boyfriends who were in their 30s. By then it's just personality traits - who is loving, generous, kind, and focused on you. Again, whenever a man has to tell you about his prevous relationships and if he ever makes himself out to be the victim - WALK AWAY. You don't ever want a man who whines and/or who doesn't take full responsibility for his actions and choices. That leads to another big heap of trouble.
Reply:Two part answer. Part one - If you had your heart broken would you jump back into another relationship with someone and be totally trusting of that person? The male ego is a fragile thing. No matter how tough we appear to be on the outside we're soft and mushy on the inside. Talk to him, show him you're on his side but don't push to hard. He will come around if you let him feel secure with you. Part two - What is typical? I don't think there is such a thing. And why is it important that he spend money? Some of the best dates I've had were walking hand in hand along a beach, flying a kite together, building a sand castle, feeding stale bread to the ducks, etc. It's not how much you spend it's who you spend the time with that's important. Anyone can throw a bunch of money around and buy a good time but it takes a real man to make a good time. Also let me suggest that you chip in half the time. Your getting half the enjoyment out of being together, why not foot half the expense? He might just be a little cautious these days and not want to break the bank if he's just going to get hurt again. If he's sweet, attentive and affectionate it sounds like he's a pretty cool guy. I'm surprised you'd even consider tossing him aside. Oh...having experience with women usually only creates bad habits. Learn and grow together...the fun is in the journey not the destination. Above all else talk. Do not judge, just talk.
Reply:Advice about dating a man in his 20's......dont do it.
I am 23 and had literally increased the minimum age to 30 about a year ago after all the guys within my age range were huge disappointments. They all wanted to party or hang with the guys every other night, get stupidly drunk, and had no idea what romance was. Granted, there is that rare gem in rough that may a great guy-but I couldn't find him. The main guy that I dated for six years actually was probably the worst. He sounds exactly like the guy that you are with. Funny thing was-when we first started dating when I was 14 and all the way up until he was about 21 (legal drinking age) he was a great guy. He spoiled me and was affectionate....then all of a sudden it was like a light switch was flipped and he turned into this....well, idiot. He was too cheap to take me to dinner, but going out with the boys every other night to the bar and dropping a $100 every time was no big deal.
I suggest to move on. If he really loves you and cares, it might take you leaving to make him step up to the plate and mature.
Reply:if this is the only fault in the relationship then I suggest try working with him a little bit on this subject/issue
Reply:Honestly? I don't think there is a future in this relationship. At the end of the day, you two are going at different speeds. I dated a younger guy when I was 34 he was 26 - it just doesn't work. Its ok if you just want a bit of fun for a short time, but if you're looking for a long term partner, its a no-no; its too unstable; people often change a lot between 20 and 30. Ultimately, you are investing into a r/ship that is almost certainly going to end. Can you afford to waste several years on an emotional dead end? He will get to a point where he wants someone younger. I think he has also turned to you because he wants a certain safety and security after the last r/ship and very often guys choose an older woman when things have gone wrong in their love lives; it happened to me. Ultimately, in my case, he went back to his ex.
The years pass very quickly; do you want to still be single in 3 or 5 years time assuming it lasts that long? If it doesn't look like it will last that long, what's point in any event? I would strongly advise moving on. The money thing is just a side issue..
Reply:yea my boyfriend was like that also he doesnt like spending money on women but dates he spend money...but my boy is only a year younger than i am...give him time and eventually he will change how long you two have been goin out anyways?? my boy change on our first month monthsary...:p give him time and he will change...but it depends how long you two have been going out?!?
Reply:I say if u stay with the man ur dating now ur gonna have to have patients with him form what ur saying he has a brick wall up from his past if ur willing to wait thats fine but remember he can also use his ex as an excuse for the he acts just get him self out of trouble and spending money
genealogy mormon
Do women love and desire us as we desire them?
i am male 17 years old , i read in the internet that
-women are not visual as men
-women have low sexual drive and desire because low levels of testestseron"men very more"
-women have less interest in sex
- i find that also in real daily life..men look at women in streets,beaches but wome no
women wear sexy clothes to turn men on , but men dont because women not interest
all media focus on woman body not man
all porn is for men and focusing on woman's body
all religions ask women to cover body not man , isnt that mean man's body not important for woman?
men have lots of fetishes and fantasies but women no, we cant find forexample a woman worship man's feet or love his clothes or underwears....etc
-some women say that men are not physical and visual the are only emotional , but i think man is also more more emotional ,we who give flowers and gifts to our lover,who we kneel and kiss hands and sometimes feet , we who make poem
so please ladies do you really want us?desire us?
Do women love and desire us as we desire them?
You must be one lonely guy,why don't you grow a backbone and live a little.If you were rejected,so what?Pick yourself up and your pride and go try again.If Rome wasn't built in a day,why do you think your going to find love in one day?Keep looking.
Reply:ok you need some man to man talkin to!!!!
i am very visual....
depends on what i am lookin at...
hehehe...
if us women like what we see our imagination takes over an you know...
if we don't then ummm.... it just doesn't...
so oh well...
but if you really want to turn a woman on....
you gotta know how to touch her...
NO NOT THERE....
but like.... make her feel like she's the only woman in the world an you just want her...
to feel what her hair feels like...
see deep into her eyes...
caress her skin...
neck, cheeks, back, shoulder.
so men get turned on at step one.
women get turned on at step 2.
that's what i am guessing.....
-shrugs-
i dun't know everything from experience but....
i know i like to be touched...
-grins again-
sorry.....
lemmie just post this before i write a novel with a horny sounding narator....
lmao
Reply:In order to better describe it. Men are like unleaded sport cars you turn them on they are ready to go. Women are more like Diesel trucks you first have to warm them up, but once they are ready, you better watch out, cause they can leave you in the dust.
some women are niphs. now when you get with these types of women you better have the same drive as them.
Every women has a sexual desire, you as a man have to bring it out of her. Look at movies, read books, go to classes, ask other people that you are comftarble talking to about sex, you will be surprise how much you will learn and the best advice of all. Practice, practice, practice.
Good luck with that!!!!!!
P.S. we dont only want your money. Not all of us.
Reply:Those that say that women are less visual, have a lower sex drive, and the rest are making broad generalizations. It depends entirely on which woman you talk to. For instance, for myself, I'm pretty visual, though my primary turn on would be touch. Low sex drive? Ha, that's myth when it comes to me. It may be true for some, but it's certainly not true for all.
Reply:i foresee a future of masturbastion for you if you don't change your view on women
Reply:R O F L
Well you made me laugh so hard, so I have to give you the good news: yes, they do, every bit as much, although maybe with some differences. One of those differences is that they hate whining like this letter; rather, they react to it with their motherly instincts "ooh, poor baby" - and you DON'T want that.
Useful tip: you learn best about women by BEING with women, not reading on the Internet and hitting porn sites. Seems kinda obvious, huh? Get out and get a chick.
Reply:Let me lay it out from a womans point of view! 1st a woman craves a man, to look at his body, to massage him, feet, hands, back, and shoulders so that he feels good. I really want the man I fansy to feel great and know that I do worship him. Women have very awesome fantasies that can range from innocent romantic to hardcore domination or submission, but the range is infinite and completely individual. I am a woman and I visually "check out" men just as u describe men doing. We really do like muscles they look healthy and clothes that show them off are the best! If a woman has a low sex drive it maybe of bad experiences with previous lover or she may have been invaded forcefully at some point in her life. I think that situations like low sex drive take long to heal and requires lots of trust and patience. I could have sex morning, noon, and nite, with lots of fun flirting in between. I think it really comes down to the individual, so don't go with generalizations. We like men's bodies and would be happy to see more of them, a media trend that is emerging!
acting resources
-women are not visual as men
-women have low sexual drive and desire because low levels of testestseron"men very more"
-women have less interest in sex
- i find that also in real daily life..men look at women in streets,beaches but wome no
women wear sexy clothes to turn men on , but men dont because women not interest
all media focus on woman body not man
all porn is for men and focusing on woman's body
all religions ask women to cover body not man , isnt that mean man's body not important for woman?
men have lots of fetishes and fantasies but women no, we cant find forexample a woman worship man's feet or love his clothes or underwears....etc
-some women say that men are not physical and visual the are only emotional , but i think man is also more more emotional ,we who give flowers and gifts to our lover,who we kneel and kiss hands and sometimes feet , we who make poem
so please ladies do you really want us?desire us?
Do women love and desire us as we desire them?
You must be one lonely guy,why don't you grow a backbone and live a little.If you were rejected,so what?Pick yourself up and your pride and go try again.If Rome wasn't built in a day,why do you think your going to find love in one day?Keep looking.
Reply:ok you need some man to man talkin to!!!!
i am very visual....
depends on what i am lookin at...
hehehe...
if us women like what we see our imagination takes over an you know...
if we don't then ummm.... it just doesn't...
so oh well...
but if you really want to turn a woman on....
you gotta know how to touch her...
NO NOT THERE....
but like.... make her feel like she's the only woman in the world an you just want her...
to feel what her hair feels like...
see deep into her eyes...
caress her skin...
neck, cheeks, back, shoulder.
so men get turned on at step one.
women get turned on at step 2.
that's what i am guessing.....
-shrugs-
i dun't know everything from experience but....
i know i like to be touched...
-grins again-
sorry.....
lemmie just post this before i write a novel with a horny sounding narator....
lmao
Reply:In order to better describe it. Men are like unleaded sport cars you turn them on they are ready to go. Women are more like Diesel trucks you first have to warm them up, but once they are ready, you better watch out, cause they can leave you in the dust.
some women are niphs. now when you get with these types of women you better have the same drive as them.
Every women has a sexual desire, you as a man have to bring it out of her. Look at movies, read books, go to classes, ask other people that you are comftarble talking to about sex, you will be surprise how much you will learn and the best advice of all. Practice, practice, practice.
Good luck with that!!!!!!
P.S. we dont only want your money. Not all of us.
Reply:Those that say that women are less visual, have a lower sex drive, and the rest are making broad generalizations. It depends entirely on which woman you talk to. For instance, for myself, I'm pretty visual, though my primary turn on would be touch. Low sex drive? Ha, that's myth when it comes to me. It may be true for some, but it's certainly not true for all.
Reply:i foresee a future of masturbastion for you if you don't change your view on women
Reply:R O F L
Well you made me laugh so hard, so I have to give you the good news: yes, they do, every bit as much, although maybe with some differences. One of those differences is that they hate whining like this letter; rather, they react to it with their motherly instincts "ooh, poor baby" - and you DON'T want that.
Useful tip: you learn best about women by BEING with women, not reading on the Internet and hitting porn sites. Seems kinda obvious, huh? Get out and get a chick.
Reply:Let me lay it out from a womans point of view! 1st a woman craves a man, to look at his body, to massage him, feet, hands, back, and shoulders so that he feels good. I really want the man I fansy to feel great and know that I do worship him. Women have very awesome fantasies that can range from innocent romantic to hardcore domination or submission, but the range is infinite and completely individual. I am a woman and I visually "check out" men just as u describe men doing. We really do like muscles they look healthy and clothes that show them off are the best! If a woman has a low sex drive it maybe of bad experiences with previous lover or she may have been invaded forcefully at some point in her life. I think that situations like low sex drive take long to heal and requires lots of trust and patience. I could have sex morning, noon, and nite, with lots of fun flirting in between. I think it really comes down to the individual, so don't go with generalizations. We like men's bodies and would be happy to see more of them, a media trend that is emerging!
acting resources
Friend with benefits?
This girl i have been having sex with alot is starting to bring emotional bull$hit to the table. She started to complain how i never get her flowers or gifts and i tried to explain that since i do not carry the title of boyfriend, i am not obligated to care about her crap or take her out to eat. I am somewhat hurt that she would even try to bug me with it. isnt there some kind of unspoken code that says i dont have to care about her. I would hate to lose the sex and clean house but i dont have it in me to buy her stuff..
Friend with benefits?
maybe she doesn't know what that means, try explaining it to her...
Reply:If you don't care about her, you need to end your relationship with her, and especially stop using her to fulfill your sexual needs. If you do care about her, then make a commitment.
Reply:she does know what friends with benefits means right no emotional attactchment but from experiance female tend to develope feelings for this guy u don't have to get her anything just remind her that u don't care for her like that maybe she will get the hint and u won't lose a thing **** i done this for three yrs loved him to death but knew it was no more than sex maybe u just found the wrong girl to do this with she may not be open-minded about this kind of thing
Reply:you know its guys like you that give good guys a bad name!!!!! You should stop seeing the girl so she can get her a REAL MAN!!!
What a LOOSERRRRRRRRRRR
Reply:Come on Dude
the term is 'Friend' with benefit
not shag for free
be a friend to her, you owe her that, or are you too selfish and only think of yourself, this is not a relationship, it is 'FRIENDS with BENEFITS'
Reply:YOU ARE SUCH A BASTARD, I MEAN, THAT GIRL, SHE IS SATISFYING YOU AND YOU CANT EVEN BUY SOMETHING NICE FOR HER??? HOW CRUEL ARE YOU HUH????!!!! YOU MAKE ME SICK, HOW COME YOU WANT EVERYTHING YOUR WAY BUT YOU WONT PLEASE HER HUH!!!??? WHEN SHE IS IN YOUR BED, SHE DOES BUG YOU, BUT WHEN SHE ASKS FOR FLOWERS SHE DOES? GET A LIFE YOU SILLY, WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE TO TREAT GIRLS LIKE THIS HUH??!!! SHAME ON YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Reply:dang on the realzz in friend with benefits there is always going to be sum kind of feeling ..like hers at first she was probably like to just do stuff but it gets old its natural for 1 of the people to actaully start to take the releationship differntly..
truthfully there is nutten u really do but go wit her or just sit her down and tell wuts the problem aand then move on... ???
Reply:Gee I can't possibly think of why she thinks that you care about her. You are only doing the most intimate act two people can do with each other on a regular basis. It's guys like you that give caring guys like me a bad name.
Reply:maybe she doesn't know she's being used. some girls give it up to wheel you in thinking you like them for them. not necessarily for sex. maybe you should be upfront and just tell her the truth (assuming she doesn't already know it). why buy the cow when the milk is free?? i see your point but i also think the whole thing is just a little sad. she seems naive.....
performing arts
Friend with benefits?
maybe she doesn't know what that means, try explaining it to her...
Reply:If you don't care about her, you need to end your relationship with her, and especially stop using her to fulfill your sexual needs. If you do care about her, then make a commitment.
Reply:she does know what friends with benefits means right no emotional attactchment but from experiance female tend to develope feelings for this guy u don't have to get her anything just remind her that u don't care for her like that maybe she will get the hint and u won't lose a thing **** i done this for three yrs loved him to death but knew it was no more than sex maybe u just found the wrong girl to do this with she may not be open-minded about this kind of thing
Reply:you know its guys like you that give good guys a bad name!!!!! You should stop seeing the girl so she can get her a REAL MAN!!!
What a LOOSERRRRRRRRRRR
Reply:Come on Dude
the term is 'Friend' with benefit
not shag for free
be a friend to her, you owe her that, or are you too selfish and only think of yourself, this is not a relationship, it is 'FRIENDS with BENEFITS'
Reply:YOU ARE SUCH A BASTARD, I MEAN, THAT GIRL, SHE IS SATISFYING YOU AND YOU CANT EVEN BUY SOMETHING NICE FOR HER??? HOW CRUEL ARE YOU HUH????!!!! YOU MAKE ME SICK, HOW COME YOU WANT EVERYTHING YOUR WAY BUT YOU WONT PLEASE HER HUH!!!??? WHEN SHE IS IN YOUR BED, SHE DOES BUG YOU, BUT WHEN SHE ASKS FOR FLOWERS SHE DOES? GET A LIFE YOU SILLY, WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE TO TREAT GIRLS LIKE THIS HUH??!!! SHAME ON YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Reply:dang on the realzz in friend with benefits there is always going to be sum kind of feeling ..like hers at first she was probably like to just do stuff but it gets old its natural for 1 of the people to actaully start to take the releationship differntly..
truthfully there is nutten u really do but go wit her or just sit her down and tell wuts the problem aand then move on... ???
Reply:Gee I can't possibly think of why she thinks that you care about her. You are only doing the most intimate act two people can do with each other on a regular basis. It's guys like you that give caring guys like me a bad name.
Reply:maybe she doesn't know she's being used. some girls give it up to wheel you in thinking you like them for them. not necessarily for sex. maybe you should be upfront and just tell her the truth (assuming she doesn't already know it). why buy the cow when the milk is free?? i see your point but i also think the whole thing is just a little sad. she seems naive.....
performing arts
Which man should I choose??? Help!?
I broke up with my ex 6 months ago. We had been together nearly three years and we loved each other. We borke up as he had had a tough time- lost a friend in a car crash and we had a miscarriage we broke up as he needed space and didn't want to stay with me when he couldn't give me 100%. I met another guy- lets call him Mr X. He is loving, kind, considerate, he does everything for me, has a good job buys me flowers and gifts etc. He says he loves me which I haven't said back- i don't feel that way. Recently my ex has said he still loves me and woiuld love us to get back together but he wants me too be happy. My ex means so much to me I wany to be with him but he can be childish and has just got a job after being out of work for over one year. Please help???
Which man should I choose??? Help!?
I think you need to make this decision. Who makes you the happiest? That's what it's really about. Not how much time you spent with X or Y. Who do you truly see yourself with in 5, 10 years? Don't worry about who your friends like, or who your family likes, who do you like? Who can you spend the rest of your life with and share every aspect of your world with? Always remember that you deserve the best and you should never settle. Good luck!
Reply:No brainer. You don't love the current, you love the ex. The ex wins and Mr X loses.
Reply:You do need to make this decision, but you have to look out for yourself. You may love him, but will you guys be able to make things work? He should have pulled you closer when he needed you the most, but instead he pushed you away. It sounds like you both needed each other, but weren't able to be. Love hurts, but it is better to love and lost then to never have loved at all. Good Luck.
fitness
Which man should I choose??? Help!?
I think you need to make this decision. Who makes you the happiest? That's what it's really about. Not how much time you spent with X or Y. Who do you truly see yourself with in 5, 10 years? Don't worry about who your friends like, or who your family likes, who do you like? Who can you spend the rest of your life with and share every aspect of your world with? Always remember that you deserve the best and you should never settle. Good luck!
Reply:No brainer. You don't love the current, you love the ex. The ex wins and Mr X loses.
Reply:You do need to make this decision, but you have to look out for yourself. You may love him, but will you guys be able to make things work? He should have pulled you closer when he needed you the most, but instead he pushed you away. It sounds like you both needed each other, but weren't able to be. Love hurts, but it is better to love and lost then to never have loved at all. Good Luck.
fitness
Which guy would you date?
Guy A:sweet,caring, loves kids,doesn't rush things,rather tell a couple of your friends than tell everyone you guys know,dreamy eyes,great hair,loves you with all his heart,tall,tan,shows his love by suprising you,brown hair,blue eyes.
Guy B:out going,high energy,loves to have fun,can't stop thinking about his girl,has a sensitive side only you see,can't take his eyes of you,protective if someone threatens you,cares about you more than he cares about himself,muscular,sporty,cares about everyone he loves,blonde,green eyes.
Guy C:funny,sarcastic,romantic,can sing really well,sends you flowers and gifts,would give the shirt on his back to you,your parent love him,smart,never even looks at other girls,black hair,brown eyes.
Guy D:he known for being a player,never spends time with you,has ALOT of friends that are girls,spends his time with the guys,cheated on his last girlfriend,lazy,silver eyes,flat top
Which guy would you date?
Guy E
I took a few things I liked out of each category.
sweet,caring,has a sensitive side only you see, loves kids,
out going,high energy,loves to have fun,can't stop thinking about his girl,has a sensitive side only you see,can't take his eyes of you,protective if someone threatens you,cares about you more than he cares about himself,muscular,sporty,cares about everyone he loves,romantic,smart,never even looks at other girls.
Reply:A
Reply:B.
But tall dark and handsome....
Since I'm making him up I want him to be perfect. I don't care about the singing and gifts. I can buy my own.
:D
Reply:B or C
I can't pick between the 2.... I want a mix of both.
Reply:A
Reply:a or c
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Guy B:out going,high energy,loves to have fun,can't stop thinking about his girl,has a sensitive side only you see,can't take his eyes of you,protective if someone threatens you,cares about you more than he cares about himself,muscular,sporty,cares about everyone he loves,blonde,green eyes.
Guy C:funny,sarcastic,romantic,can sing really well,sends you flowers and gifts,would give the shirt on his back to you,your parent love him,smart,never even looks at other girls,black hair,brown eyes.
Guy D:he known for being a player,never spends time with you,has ALOT of friends that are girls,spends his time with the guys,cheated on his last girlfriend,lazy,silver eyes,flat top
Which guy would you date?
Guy E
I took a few things I liked out of each category.
sweet,caring,has a sensitive side only you see, loves kids,
out going,high energy,loves to have fun,can't stop thinking about his girl,has a sensitive side only you see,can't take his eyes of you,protective if someone threatens you,cares about you more than he cares about himself,muscular,sporty,cares about everyone he loves,romantic,smart,never even looks at other girls.
Reply:A
Reply:B.
But tall dark and handsome....
Since I'm making him up I want him to be perfect. I don't care about the singing and gifts. I can buy my own.
:D
Reply:B or C
I can't pick between the 2.... I want a mix of both.
Reply:A
Reply:a or c
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Do nice guys really finish last??
Is it bad to buying women flowers and gifts. some women think i'm trying to buy them or something. really i just get pleasure making someone happy.
Do nice guys really finish last??
You sound like a really great guy. No, if you're just getting gifts to be nice then please don't stop. And I don't think nice guys finish last. I think a nice girl can spot a nice guy a mile away and when it happens it will be a blissful relationship.
Reply:Well if nice guys finish last.... ;) Im still availabe and a nice guy is always worth waitng for.! ;)
Reply:i used to think bad guys were the greatest but now i see there nothing but heart breakand trouble and i would whether have a nice guy and i finally found one and it is great so keep doing what your doing
Reply:there's no answer except you got to find out which approach works best with each different woman.
Reply:My theory - Nice guys don't finish last, they don't finish at all. They get trampled at the starting line and get their neck stepped on a lot.
:-(
Reply:Yeah its funny. Woman complain about guys and how most of them just get used for sex yet they never even think about going out with a nice guy that wouldn't even think about using a woman. LOL
Reply:pritty much we do finnish last why cause girls dont know what there missing
Reply:they do.
Reply:Every guy finishes in some way trust me and you sound sweet :)
Reply:Well, have you ever thought of getting pleasure from making yourself happy first. I know that sounds bad so let us stay out of the gutter for a moment... I, myself, do the same thing above. I go out of my way to make people happy and it gets me nothing in return. So don't worry about making others happy as much, just try and make sure you are getting everything you need. You might be trying to show you love them by giving gifts also, which you shouldn't have to do. Your love should be enough, if not then they aren't worth it.
super nanny
Do nice guys really finish last??
You sound like a really great guy. No, if you're just getting gifts to be nice then please don't stop. And I don't think nice guys finish last. I think a nice girl can spot a nice guy a mile away and when it happens it will be a blissful relationship.
Reply:Well if nice guys finish last.... ;) Im still availabe and a nice guy is always worth waitng for.! ;)
Reply:i used to think bad guys were the greatest but now i see there nothing but heart breakand trouble and i would whether have a nice guy and i finally found one and it is great so keep doing what your doing
Reply:there's no answer except you got to find out which approach works best with each different woman.
Reply:My theory - Nice guys don't finish last, they don't finish at all. They get trampled at the starting line and get their neck stepped on a lot.
:-(
Reply:Yeah its funny. Woman complain about guys and how most of them just get used for sex yet they never even think about going out with a nice guy that wouldn't even think about using a woman. LOL
Reply:pritty much we do finnish last why cause girls dont know what there missing
Reply:they do.
Reply:Every guy finishes in some way trust me and you sound sweet :)
Reply:Well, have you ever thought of getting pleasure from making yourself happy first. I know that sounds bad so let us stay out of the gutter for a moment... I, myself, do the same thing above. I go out of my way to make people happy and it gets me nothing in return. So don't worry about making others happy as much, just try and make sure you are getting everything you need. You might be trying to show you love them by giving gifts also, which you shouldn't have to do. Your love should be enough, if not then they aren't worth it.
super nanny
My girlfriend of 2 years broke up with me and has another boyfirned, what to do?
So I was with my girlfriend for almost two years and everything was okay. Then one day she broke up with me and we talked a little but that slowly went away and now we talk like once a week if even that. I found out that she had a new boyfriend and he is a druggy loser and I know she's making a mistake. I've tried everything to get her back. I have wrote letters, we went to baseball games but she hasn't changed her mind. I don't know what else to do but it's driving me crazy because I know she's making a mistake. What can I do to get her back and realize she's making a mistake. I really love her and care about her a lot and I will do anything to get her back. I was so nice to her and always gave her flowers and gifts to be nice.
My girlfriend of 2 years broke up with me and has another boyfirned, what to do?
I know exactly what your going through. Pretty much same story here except we'd been together a little longer and we were engaged for the last two years. Just out of the blue she said she didn't love me anymore and walked out of my life. Now she's with some other guy who I know is just going to break her heart.
My advice to you is let her go eventually she will realize that this guy is a jerk and she'll come running back to you. When that happens you have decide if you will take her back and possibly get hurt again or tell her to get lost. In my case i was suicidal for nearly a month before I started to get over her. I still miss her and think about her everyday. But when she does come back to me, I cannot take her back. This breakup broke me and nearly killed me. I know I cannot go through it again. If I took her back then she might do this to me again and i don't think I could survive it a second time.
skin disease
My girlfriend of 2 years broke up with me and has another boyfirned, what to do?
I know exactly what your going through. Pretty much same story here except we'd been together a little longer and we were engaged for the last two years. Just out of the blue she said she didn't love me anymore and walked out of my life. Now she's with some other guy who I know is just going to break her heart.
My advice to you is let her go eventually she will realize that this guy is a jerk and she'll come running back to you. When that happens you have decide if you will take her back and possibly get hurt again or tell her to get lost. In my case i was suicidal for nearly a month before I started to get over her. I still miss her and think about her everyday. But when she does come back to me, I cannot take her back. This breakup broke me and nearly killed me. I know I cannot go through it again. If I took her back then she might do this to me again and i don't think I could survive it a second time.
skin disease
What is a great creative college graduation gift for my sister-in-law?
I want to get something different... not the usual flowers, cards, gift cards, clothes, etc. Any ideas?
What is a great creative college graduation gift for my sister-in-law?
What did she study in college? Will she be needing a briefcase? Will she have business cards? If so, how about a business card holder... A gift certificate to have a massage since she's worked so hard thru college... A really nice frame to put her diploma in... A nice frame for her picture... an evening at the restaurant to celebrate... a bottle of champagne to celbrate... Some really nice letterhead paper with her new initials following her name (if that's happening after she receives her diploma)... A portfolio to carry her resumés and reference letter to job interviews...
Reply:get her a goft card to a teaching supply store for her to stock up on great things for her students.
make her a teachers care basket: buy her a chair massager, a coffee cup the heats up by plugging it in (works for tea too) a comfy pair of shoes to wear in class, maybe a scented candle and of course a small gift card to a teacher supply store so she can buy some cool stuff for her students.
Reply:Well, what did she learn? I would get something cool that pertain to her Degree, but, you not say, so, I can not tell. Buy her some Reese's Pieces and tell her this for when you not get a job, drop them on the floor and pick up the pieces and move on with life. Sorry, this all I know from the limited knowledge you give.
Now my niece and her friend helped my brother and me move his boat from Florida to Texas. We ate a lot of Spam. This girl say after we got home she never want to see Spam again. For her graduation, can you guess what I gave that girl for graduation?
Reply:Our community has a couple of stores that cater to teachers. They sell items useful in class, teachers aids. A gift cetificate there would be great.
Any present that shows support for her, would be great. Some thing to relax with, something to make her feel pretty, something to unwind with after a day at school.
Reply:Are you creative with the computer. Here is what I would like (I'm about to graduate college myself).
My daughter is making me a memory album that shows some of the things she remembers about my time in college. What she has learned from what I've struggled with and what I'm about to do career-wise. So, how about giving her something that represents her struggles in school and what she has overcome?
nanny
What is a great creative college graduation gift for my sister-in-law?
What did she study in college? Will she be needing a briefcase? Will she have business cards? If so, how about a business card holder... A gift certificate to have a massage since she's worked so hard thru college... A really nice frame to put her diploma in... A nice frame for her picture... an evening at the restaurant to celebrate... a bottle of champagne to celbrate... Some really nice letterhead paper with her new initials following her name (if that's happening after she receives her diploma)... A portfolio to carry her resumés and reference letter to job interviews...
Reply:get her a goft card to a teaching supply store for her to stock up on great things for her students.
make her a teachers care basket: buy her a chair massager, a coffee cup the heats up by plugging it in (works for tea too) a comfy pair of shoes to wear in class, maybe a scented candle and of course a small gift card to a teacher supply store so she can buy some cool stuff for her students.
Reply:Well, what did she learn? I would get something cool that pertain to her Degree, but, you not say, so, I can not tell. Buy her some Reese's Pieces and tell her this for when you not get a job, drop them on the floor and pick up the pieces and move on with life. Sorry, this all I know from the limited knowledge you give.
Now my niece and her friend helped my brother and me move his boat from Florida to Texas. We ate a lot of Spam. This girl say after we got home she never want to see Spam again. For her graduation, can you guess what I gave that girl for graduation?
Reply:Our community has a couple of stores that cater to teachers. They sell items useful in class, teachers aids. A gift cetificate there would be great.
Any present that shows support for her, would be great. Some thing to relax with, something to make her feel pretty, something to unwind with after a day at school.
Reply:Are you creative with the computer. Here is what I would like (I'm about to graduate college myself).
My daughter is making me a memory album that shows some of the things she remembers about my time in college. What she has learned from what I've struggled with and what I'm about to do career-wise. So, how about giving her something that represents her struggles in school and what she has overcome?
nanny
Girls, how do i know if im going too fast or not agressive enough?
I have always ponder about this. SOmetimes people tell me that Im too agressive, other times people tell me that girls need to be pursued and I have to be the aggressive one. Im so confused. I have had relationships in the past and to this date i still dont know if i need to be more aggressive or not aggressive enough when im with a girl. And the worst thing is, some girls likes to play the "game" which i hate cos it complicates things than they are supposed to be.
EX: I sometimes buy flowers or gifts to girls. Others say that its too much, others say its right. I only do it when i feel is right and have some assurance that atleast something is going on.
EX: i dont call every day cos i find that a bit too agreesive coming from past experience. However, sometimes people tell me i have to be more..."on the go agressive"
EX i try to keep a friendly mood unless i get hints that shes interested. Like joking around every now and then.
EX:
i dont get intimacy unless i know for sure
Girls, how do i know if im going too fast or not agressive enough?
too long, sorry!
Shoes
EX: I sometimes buy flowers or gifts to girls. Others say that its too much, others say its right. I only do it when i feel is right and have some assurance that atleast something is going on.
EX: i dont call every day cos i find that a bit too agreesive coming from past experience. However, sometimes people tell me i have to be more..."on the go agressive"
EX i try to keep a friendly mood unless i get hints that shes interested. Like joking around every now and then.
EX:
i dont get intimacy unless i know for sure
Girls, how do i know if im going too fast or not agressive enough?
too long, sorry!
Shoes
What makes men feel romantic?
Women tend to feel connected by phone calls, conversations, flowers, and gifts...........what about men? what makes men feel connected? you guys like doing things together like going for a movie, watching football games.........? what's the secret of it?
What makes men feel romantic?
my girlfriend is so romantic especially so when she wipes my sweat towards my armpit, back and my whole body after workout and badminton games...and when she is behind holding my waist (lover's hand area of my body) tightly. when she kisses me. ;-)
Reply:Its no secret that men are easy ... kind words and compliments, glances and smiles, frequent physical contact of almost any kind. Doing together ... depends on the guy, but if it includes any of the aforementioned things it'll be good.
Reply:Seeing a woman's naked body.... and watching football games, lol
Reply:I would consider it incredibly romantic if a lady cooked a meal for me and snuggled up with me to watch a movie.
Of course in real life the guy would help out with the cooking, but you did say ROMANTIC...
Reply:I'd ask because guys vary in what they want A LOT MORE than girls do, I love it when my girlfriend does something sweet for me or surprises me, and is really flirtatious and playful i mean to me i want a girl that's practically obsessed because i know she cares... but i know a lot of guys that arent into that and want their space and hate it when girls obsess over them.
Reply:my guy likes it when i just listing to his conversation and being there for him and also giving him his space
Reply:Hanging with the guys can sometimes be better then with the girls...Why you ask? Well it's because a lot of the time the girls are going to ask you questions that you don't want to answer or drag you to places you want to go, with the guys you feel more like yourself. Let the guys be themselves in public but trust me you will know how to make them romantic behind closed doors.
loan
What makes men feel romantic?
my girlfriend is so romantic especially so when she wipes my sweat towards my armpit, back and my whole body after workout and badminton games...and when she is behind holding my waist (lover's hand area of my body) tightly. when she kisses me. ;-)
Reply:Its no secret that men are easy ... kind words and compliments, glances and smiles, frequent physical contact of almost any kind. Doing together ... depends on the guy, but if it includes any of the aforementioned things it'll be good.
Reply:Seeing a woman's naked body.... and watching football games, lol
Reply:I would consider it incredibly romantic if a lady cooked a meal for me and snuggled up with me to watch a movie.
Of course in real life the guy would help out with the cooking, but you did say ROMANTIC...
Reply:I'd ask because guys vary in what they want A LOT MORE than girls do, I love it when my girlfriend does something sweet for me or surprises me, and is really flirtatious and playful i mean to me i want a girl that's practically obsessed because i know she cares... but i know a lot of guys that arent into that and want their space and hate it when girls obsess over them.
Reply:my guy likes it when i just listing to his conversation and being there for him and also giving him his space
Reply:Hanging with the guys can sometimes be better then with the girls...Why you ask? Well it's because a lot of the time the girls are going to ask you questions that you don't want to answer or drag you to places you want to go, with the guys you feel more like yourself. Let the guys be themselves in public but trust me you will know how to make them romantic behind closed doors.
loan
What should I do in this situation?
After 38 yrs I met 34 yr old lady who is my ideal woman. She is similar to me and a very approachable person, she is genuine and I know she is on the same wavelength as me.
We are comfortable in each others presence and when I'm near her I really notice the comfortableness. I have never met anyone that appears to be into the same things as me and share the same personality traits.
Anyway she showed an interest so I asked her out and she said yes and then changed it to no. Months later it appearred it was still on her mind but she has pushed me away. I know we would get on well but yesterday I found out it was her work xmas party.
She was there with another staff member and kep putting her arms round the guy. I dont know if she likes him or he is just very good friends with her. There is some affinity between them.
What should I do? Walkaway or try and win her over? I don't want to buy her with flowers or gifts etc and I think it has to come from her.
What should I do in this situation?
dont give up - but dont be over attentive or jealous!! i used to like a guy who really liked me but then he just got over protective and got really mad everytime i was with another guy.
just show her youre interested but i do think its a good approach to just let things play out and if it is meant to be then it will just happen naturally :)
Reply:a faint heart never one a fair maiden, keep trying,but dont get to the stalking stage.lol .best of luck.
puppy teeth
We are comfortable in each others presence and when I'm near her I really notice the comfortableness. I have never met anyone that appears to be into the same things as me and share the same personality traits.
Anyway she showed an interest so I asked her out and she said yes and then changed it to no. Months later it appearred it was still on her mind but she has pushed me away. I know we would get on well but yesterday I found out it was her work xmas party.
She was there with another staff member and kep putting her arms round the guy. I dont know if she likes him or he is just very good friends with her. There is some affinity between them.
What should I do? Walkaway or try and win her over? I don't want to buy her with flowers or gifts etc and I think it has to come from her.
What should I do in this situation?
dont give up - but dont be over attentive or jealous!! i used to like a guy who really liked me but then he just got over protective and got really mad everytime i was with another guy.
just show her youre interested but i do think its a good approach to just let things play out and if it is meant to be then it will just happen naturally :)
Reply:a faint heart never one a fair maiden, keep trying,but dont get to the stalking stage.lol .best of luck.
puppy teeth
How do i gain her trust back?
Long story short, my girlfriend broke up with me because of a very bogus event that made me look very guilty.
i went to her told her the truth and she still doesnt believe me.
We are still talking and she wants to work things out but she doesnt know if she can ever trust me again and see's me as someone im not.
im a very honest, loving and trustworthy guy and just want her back in my arms so i can prove to her i am that man.
my problem is i think im too needy i complain about not being with her i buy her flowers and gifts i tell her i love her every chance i get. i know she still love me back but i feel im pushing her away.
she says im too nice and never get mad at her. but i feel if i get mad at her for something she'll just say "see ya" and its done for good.
i just want to gain back her trust and let her know ill never hurt her again
someone help
How do i gain her trust back?
It sounds like you're way more into her than she is you... I would rethink this relationship. Firstly, you need to figure out what the real deal is. Is she in love with you? Or is she using this bogus event as an excuse to break up with you? No one on here can you tell you what's going on... so you need to sit down with her and find out. Good luck...
Reply:Move on. Drop her. She will never trust you.
Reebok
i went to her told her the truth and she still doesnt believe me.
We are still talking and she wants to work things out but she doesnt know if she can ever trust me again and see's me as someone im not.
im a very honest, loving and trustworthy guy and just want her back in my arms so i can prove to her i am that man.
my problem is i think im too needy i complain about not being with her i buy her flowers and gifts i tell her i love her every chance i get. i know she still love me back but i feel im pushing her away.
she says im too nice and never get mad at her. but i feel if i get mad at her for something she'll just say "see ya" and its done for good.
i just want to gain back her trust and let her know ill never hurt her again
someone help
How do i gain her trust back?
It sounds like you're way more into her than she is you... I would rethink this relationship. Firstly, you need to figure out what the real deal is. Is she in love with you? Or is she using this bogus event as an excuse to break up with you? No one on here can you tell you what's going on... so you need to sit down with her and find out. Good luck...
Reply:Move on. Drop her. She will never trust you.
Reebok
Could any body give me some ideas for keeping a long distance relationship exciting ? Thanks :)?
I am running out of ideas to keep the relationship alive with my girlfriend who has moved to another city. I am doing the following ..make calls, send sms, deliver flowers/ chocolates/ gifts. Is there anything creative way of keeping the magic alive.? or something that will keep her mind engaged, before I be with her physically. Thanks in advance for the answers.
Could any body give me some ideas for keeping a long distance relationship exciting ? Thanks :)?
THEY NEVER WORK !!!
GOOD LUCK !!!
Reply:Oh yeah, I use to have a long distance relationship, and now we're married! Does she do things for you too? If not, ask her that you'd like her to. You can write her letters! Don't call her for a whole day or two! Then when she checks her mail she'll find your letter!! You could also take a local art class and make her something, pottery or an actual art piece for her to hang and/or display where she lives so she'll always be reminded of what she has! You could also make a trip to see her without her knowing and surprise her! GOOD LUCK!
Reply:HI
i've been in a 6 yrs of long distance relationship, n now m married to the same guy. u r doing lots to keep the relationship alive. but one thing for sure, nothing can be compared to physical presence. so make sure u r always there with her on her birthday, and the anniversary of the day u first met. obviously it should be a surprise. n mind it nothing is impossible.this effort of urs will make her feel special, n u'll always hold that very special position in her life.
Reply:if she loves you and knows your moving to be with her, you should not have to invent ways to keep things exciting, she should just be patient, happy and love you...phone sex might add a little spice tho..try it, its the safest sex,,,lol
Reply:if you both love each other, the magic will be there forever. i met my girlfriend 4 months back and since then i have proposed her, she accepted it, and still we don't know when we would meet. just be your normal self, and she will be yours forever...
Reply:E mail her everyday, send her love poems , and maintain the other things that you are doing daily. I'm sure she will not be able to forget you. Don't forget to say:"I love you".
Reply:You are already doing a lot. But let me ask whether it is reciprocal or not.
Most importantly, you will have to keep the relationship alive and exciting by way of constant touch.
Apart from that...
What about a surprise personal visit?
Reply:yes you can do that if you don't hurt yourself,if you don't feel good you don't keep this relationship.if you love her
do the best for each other
Reply:its hard, my boyfriend and i only saw each other every 2/3 weeks for the first 6/7 months.it sounds like you are doing all the right things to let her know you still think about her all the time. just be sure to try and see each other whenever time permits, meet somewhere in the middle it the distance isn't too far. but above all else, trust is the most important. best of luck!
Reply:You can buy those thingies on the market that can make your penis longer...... dunno, but it might help. Anything to keep the magic alive!
Reply:I promise you that if you try the "surprise visit", you will find her with some other dude when you get there. Women are like raccoons. They like shiney things. The first guy that drives by with his newly washed Mustang will have her pants down around her ankles in no time.
Long distance doesn't work. Even if you think it worked, she will have cheated on you repeatedly. Women are just horrible sex monkeys.
Don't ever get married to an American woman. You seem like the kind of guy who would get taken for everything you own. Stay hard. Stay independent. American women are selfish and useless. They only wnat the free ride and maybe a baby or two. They don't need you around for that when the divorce laws here mean you have to pay them for 18 years regardless.
Reply:i think with all these things its important in a long distance relationship to give that other perrson space, a time in which that person will miss u, and other thing is chatting with webcam on, wen u can c each other, all the best
Reply:That is very difficult, sounds like you are doing all you can do from a distance. Good luck.%26gt;
Reply:personally i don't believe in long distance relationships but that's me! Anyway if you want to keep your relationship going, i think the best that i can think of is to surprise her at her doorstep once in a blue moon. Don't let her know that you're going to visit her then suddenly pop at her doorstep. That would be really sweet! Or have u try cyber-sex with her? It's a form of foreplay that can keep her wanting you? Or phone sex?
loan
Could any body give me some ideas for keeping a long distance relationship exciting ? Thanks :)?
THEY NEVER WORK !!!
GOOD LUCK !!!
Reply:Oh yeah, I use to have a long distance relationship, and now we're married! Does she do things for you too? If not, ask her that you'd like her to. You can write her letters! Don't call her for a whole day or two! Then when she checks her mail she'll find your letter!! You could also take a local art class and make her something, pottery or an actual art piece for her to hang and/or display where she lives so she'll always be reminded of what she has! You could also make a trip to see her without her knowing and surprise her! GOOD LUCK!
Reply:HI
i've been in a 6 yrs of long distance relationship, n now m married to the same guy. u r doing lots to keep the relationship alive. but one thing for sure, nothing can be compared to physical presence. so make sure u r always there with her on her birthday, and the anniversary of the day u first met. obviously it should be a surprise. n mind it nothing is impossible.this effort of urs will make her feel special, n u'll always hold that very special position in her life.
Reply:if she loves you and knows your moving to be with her, you should not have to invent ways to keep things exciting, she should just be patient, happy and love you...phone sex might add a little spice tho..try it, its the safest sex,,,lol
Reply:if you both love each other, the magic will be there forever. i met my girlfriend 4 months back and since then i have proposed her, she accepted it, and still we don't know when we would meet. just be your normal self, and she will be yours forever...
Reply:E mail her everyday, send her love poems , and maintain the other things that you are doing daily. I'm sure she will not be able to forget you. Don't forget to say:"I love you".
Reply:You are already doing a lot. But let me ask whether it is reciprocal or not.
Most importantly, you will have to keep the relationship alive and exciting by way of constant touch.
Apart from that...
What about a surprise personal visit?
Reply:yes you can do that if you don't hurt yourself,if you don't feel good you don't keep this relationship.if you love her
do the best for each other
Reply:its hard, my boyfriend and i only saw each other every 2/3 weeks for the first 6/7 months.it sounds like you are doing all the right things to let her know you still think about her all the time. just be sure to try and see each other whenever time permits, meet somewhere in the middle it the distance isn't too far. but above all else, trust is the most important. best of luck!
Reply:You can buy those thingies on the market that can make your penis longer...... dunno, but it might help. Anything to keep the magic alive!
Reply:I promise you that if you try the "surprise visit", you will find her with some other dude when you get there. Women are like raccoons. They like shiney things. The first guy that drives by with his newly washed Mustang will have her pants down around her ankles in no time.
Long distance doesn't work. Even if you think it worked, she will have cheated on you repeatedly. Women are just horrible sex monkeys.
Don't ever get married to an American woman. You seem like the kind of guy who would get taken for everything you own. Stay hard. Stay independent. American women are selfish and useless. They only wnat the free ride and maybe a baby or two. They don't need you around for that when the divorce laws here mean you have to pay them for 18 years regardless.
Reply:i think with all these things its important in a long distance relationship to give that other perrson space, a time in which that person will miss u, and other thing is chatting with webcam on, wen u can c each other, all the best
Reply:That is very difficult, sounds like you are doing all you can do from a distance. Good luck.%26gt;
Reply:personally i don't believe in long distance relationships but that's me! Anyway if you want to keep your relationship going, i think the best that i can think of is to surprise her at her doorstep once in a blue moon. Don't let her know that you're going to visit her then suddenly pop at her doorstep. That would be really sweet! Or have u try cyber-sex with her? It's a form of foreplay that can keep her wanting you? Or phone sex?
loan
Next month is valentines day already help me answer this question first five gets stars?
Every February, across the country, candy, flowers, and gifts are exchanged between loved ones, all in the name of St. Valentine. But who is this mysterious saint and why do we celebrate this holiday? The history of Valentine's Day -- and its patron saint -- is shrouded in mystery.....
Next month is valentines day already help me answer this question first five gets stars?
One legend contends that Valentine was a priest who served during the third century in Rome. When Emperor Claudius II decided that single men made better soldiers than those with wives and families, he outlawed marriage for young men -- his crop of potential soldiers. Valentine, realizing the injustice of the decree, defied Claudius and continued to perform marriages for young lovers in secret. When Valentine's actions were discovered, Claudius ordered that he be put to death.
According to one legend, Valentine actually sent the first 'valentine' greeting himself. While in prison, it is believed that Valentine fell in love with a young girl -- who may have been his jailor's daughter -- who visited him during his confinement. Before his death, it is alleged that he wrote her a letter, which he signed 'From your Valentine,' an expression that is still in use today. Although the truth behind the Valentine legends is murky, the stories certainly emphasize his appeal as a sympathetic, heroic, and, most importantly, romantic figure. It's no surprise that by the Middle Ages, Valentine was one of the most popular saints in England and France.
happy valentines day in advance
Reply:st. valentines... as i hav heard... was the saint of love.
he spread love everywhere.
:) that is why we celebrate valentines day on 14th feb (he died that day!)
Reply:Its a day women dreamed up
EDIT: Looks like a woman gave me a thumbs down, lol. No straight man likes that day. We'll take the steak and BJ day anytime.
Reply:Dear Miss
It is the Goddess of love and cupid brought out his bow and love across the world began to happen that is why it is called St. Valentine's day because cupid made all love work Then came marriage's then divorce's all in one and he sat on his cloud and laughed so hard he fell off just a laughing say just look at what I have done
c++
Next month is valentines day already help me answer this question first five gets stars?
One legend contends that Valentine was a priest who served during the third century in Rome. When Emperor Claudius II decided that single men made better soldiers than those with wives and families, he outlawed marriage for young men -- his crop of potential soldiers. Valentine, realizing the injustice of the decree, defied Claudius and continued to perform marriages for young lovers in secret. When Valentine's actions were discovered, Claudius ordered that he be put to death.
According to one legend, Valentine actually sent the first 'valentine' greeting himself. While in prison, it is believed that Valentine fell in love with a young girl -- who may have been his jailor's daughter -- who visited him during his confinement. Before his death, it is alleged that he wrote her a letter, which he signed 'From your Valentine,' an expression that is still in use today. Although the truth behind the Valentine legends is murky, the stories certainly emphasize his appeal as a sympathetic, heroic, and, most importantly, romantic figure. It's no surprise that by the Middle Ages, Valentine was one of the most popular saints in England and France.
happy valentines day in advance
Reply:st. valentines... as i hav heard... was the saint of love.
he spread love everywhere.
:) that is why we celebrate valentines day on 14th feb (he died that day!)
Reply:Its a day women dreamed up
EDIT: Looks like a woman gave me a thumbs down, lol. No straight man likes that day. We'll take the steak and BJ day anytime.
Reply:Dear Miss
It is the Goddess of love and cupid brought out his bow and love across the world began to happen that is why it is called St. Valentine's day because cupid made all love work Then came marriage's then divorce's all in one and he sat on his cloud and laughed so hard he fell off just a laughing say just look at what I have done
c++
He doesn't care for me, or am I being too sensitive?
We're both in our 30s, no kids. We've been dating for 4-5 mos. We see each other almost everyday (on his request). I cook 90% of the time (by choice).
After work, he tells (vents to) me about his day, the annoying co-workers...standard stuff until after dinner, then he'll read a magazine or fall asleep on my couch until time to go home. Seems he's always too exhausted to listen to my day.
He has never gotten me anything, no flowers, no gifts, not even little things I need around the house. I don't need someone spending $40 on a dozen roses on me, but I don't even get a $2.99 rose from 7-Eleven. On the other hand, I'm constantly doing/buying little things for him, sometimes make lunch and deliver it to him. I feel I am not getting any returns from the time and effort investment I am putting in.
I am a cheap date. We dine out about once a week and the bill is around $25. He pays for that and the groceries. He doesn't support me financially otherwise.
Am I being too sensitive?
He doesn't care for me, or am I being too sensitive?
He appears to only be interested in himself, very hard habit to break. I would suggest not inviting him over for awhile and than when he asks you why, let him know your feelings. If he comes back in anger let him go because he will prove to you that he is a self absorbent or selfish individual who only cares about his own needs. If a man is truly falling for a woman he will show her just how much he cares for her i.e., cards, gifts, dinner, vacation, flowers or even just small signs of generosity.
Good luck!!!
Reply:If you like this guy and want to spend time with him, then you need to tell him that you have needs to and they are not being meet by him and if this continues your relationship will be very strained and non existent. If this doesn't work then, I would seek another partner who will appreiciate you more. God bless and Good Luck.
Reply:no, you're not.. it's normal for us to atleast expect the person we love and care about to give back atleast a little of what we give to them.. love is supposed to be give and take, and it seems like you're the only one doing all the giving.. talk things out before it gets worse.. if he really loves you, and he feels that you're not satisfied with what he's showing you, then i'm sure that he'll change his ways..
Reply:NO NEED TO HAVE MORE VALUE IN YOURSELF BEFORE HE COULD FIND VALUE IN YOU. COOKS EARN A HELL OF ALOT OF MONEY. PUT A PRICE TAG ON ALL THAT YOU DO AND DETERMINE YOUR OWN WORTH. LET HIM KNOW YOUR VALUE AND DEMAND MORE FROM HIM. HE WILL DO WHATEVER YOU ALLOW HIM TO DO OR WILL NOT DO WHATEVER YOU ALLOW HIM NOT TO DO. B
Reply:Have you ever asked him why he wants to see you almost everyday? To me it doesnt sound like yall really have conversations or just hang out together-(dont get me wrong nothing is wrong with comeing over and crashing cause your tired sometimes but every time!!)??
Reply:NO, you need to express to him how you feel. Let him know that you like little surprises too.
Reply:Answer these questions b cuz u have the answers.
Does he ask u about ur day?..... Hell naw.
Does he deliver u lunch?...hell no
Has he ever gotten u a gift...? Hell naw
Should u give him da time of day...(my answer 2 ur question)... HELL Naw....
Reply:No, your not. Everyone wants as much love as they give out, it's natural. However; if this guy is working, and gets tired from it, it may be reason enough to excuse this. At least for now. First off.. if he's venting about his day to you, it means he loves you enough to talk comfortably. That's good. Men aren't always the most affectionate, I'm sure you know that, Even if they don't buy you things or listen to your day, it doesn't mean they don't love you very, very much. My advice, is to play this out a little longer. But stop buying him so many things, atleast a little. You never know, sweetheart, you bringing him lunch and listening to his day could really be helping this guy out, and making him happy. Just see how things go :) i'd say he cares for you, but just blows at showing it!
Reply:not at all
Reply:no you are not he is butting very cheap and inconsiderate and you should tell him about him about his self
Reply:Run!! it's not that he feels comfortable. It's that he's self absorbed. This is not a good sign in such a short time. He should be picking you up for dates not living there. He should need to do kind things for you. Hell, I wouldn't mind knowing where you go for 25$. kidding;) The fact that he's there "Almost every day" shows that you already feel trapped. Why should anyone have to settle. Someone is out there that is a perfect fit.
Reply:get used to it or find someone else, not every guy thinks of stuff like that
Reply:I'm thinking that you should break it off - it's not good if you're feeling this way after only 5 months. Why waste time on a relationship where you do all of the giving? If anything, the break off might wake him up!
Reply:No you not he with you because of convenience move on you are doing to much !
Reply:i say dump him
Reply:If you want it to work, he should be the one your talking to about this. You've already gotten off to a bad start by not opening the line of communication. Your in your thirties, both of you are probably showing your true colors. He's comfortable really quick with showing them and you are scarred to talk to him about it. You sound more like friends than lovers. It doesn't get better if you never tell him your expectations. His romance levels usually won't go up. It's typical to get the best up front unless you learn to tell him what you require and expect. Get it out of the way now or live with the consequences of not telling him. It's tough to tell your mate what you want, but it's easier than being miserable.
yahoo finance
After work, he tells (vents to) me about his day, the annoying co-workers...standard stuff until after dinner, then he'll read a magazine or fall asleep on my couch until time to go home. Seems he's always too exhausted to listen to my day.
He has never gotten me anything, no flowers, no gifts, not even little things I need around the house. I don't need someone spending $40 on a dozen roses on me, but I don't even get a $2.99 rose from 7-Eleven. On the other hand, I'm constantly doing/buying little things for him, sometimes make lunch and deliver it to him. I feel I am not getting any returns from the time and effort investment I am putting in.
I am a cheap date. We dine out about once a week and the bill is around $25. He pays for that and the groceries. He doesn't support me financially otherwise.
Am I being too sensitive?
He doesn't care for me, or am I being too sensitive?
He appears to only be interested in himself, very hard habit to break. I would suggest not inviting him over for awhile and than when he asks you why, let him know your feelings. If he comes back in anger let him go because he will prove to you that he is a self absorbent or selfish individual who only cares about his own needs. If a man is truly falling for a woman he will show her just how much he cares for her i.e., cards, gifts, dinner, vacation, flowers or even just small signs of generosity.
Good luck!!!
Reply:If you like this guy and want to spend time with him, then you need to tell him that you have needs to and they are not being meet by him and if this continues your relationship will be very strained and non existent. If this doesn't work then, I would seek another partner who will appreiciate you more. God bless and Good Luck.
Reply:no, you're not.. it's normal for us to atleast expect the person we love and care about to give back atleast a little of what we give to them.. love is supposed to be give and take, and it seems like you're the only one doing all the giving.. talk things out before it gets worse.. if he really loves you, and he feels that you're not satisfied with what he's showing you, then i'm sure that he'll change his ways..
Reply:NO NEED TO HAVE MORE VALUE IN YOURSELF BEFORE HE COULD FIND VALUE IN YOU. COOKS EARN A HELL OF ALOT OF MONEY. PUT A PRICE TAG ON ALL THAT YOU DO AND DETERMINE YOUR OWN WORTH. LET HIM KNOW YOUR VALUE AND DEMAND MORE FROM HIM. HE WILL DO WHATEVER YOU ALLOW HIM TO DO OR WILL NOT DO WHATEVER YOU ALLOW HIM NOT TO DO. B
Reply:Have you ever asked him why he wants to see you almost everyday? To me it doesnt sound like yall really have conversations or just hang out together-(dont get me wrong nothing is wrong with comeing over and crashing cause your tired sometimes but every time!!)??
Reply:NO, you need to express to him how you feel. Let him know that you like little surprises too.
Reply:Answer these questions b cuz u have the answers.
Does he ask u about ur day?..... Hell naw.
Does he deliver u lunch?...hell no
Has he ever gotten u a gift...? Hell naw
Should u give him da time of day...(my answer 2 ur question)... HELL Naw....
Reply:No, your not. Everyone wants as much love as they give out, it's natural. However; if this guy is working, and gets tired from it, it may be reason enough to excuse this. At least for now. First off.. if he's venting about his day to you, it means he loves you enough to talk comfortably. That's good. Men aren't always the most affectionate, I'm sure you know that, Even if they don't buy you things or listen to your day, it doesn't mean they don't love you very, very much. My advice, is to play this out a little longer. But stop buying him so many things, atleast a little. You never know, sweetheart, you bringing him lunch and listening to his day could really be helping this guy out, and making him happy. Just see how things go :) i'd say he cares for you, but just blows at showing it!
Reply:not at all
Reply:no you are not he is butting very cheap and inconsiderate and you should tell him about him about his self
Reply:Run!! it's not that he feels comfortable. It's that he's self absorbed. This is not a good sign in such a short time. He should be picking you up for dates not living there. He should need to do kind things for you. Hell, I wouldn't mind knowing where you go for 25$. kidding;) The fact that he's there "Almost every day" shows that you already feel trapped. Why should anyone have to settle. Someone is out there that is a perfect fit.
Reply:get used to it or find someone else, not every guy thinks of stuff like that
Reply:I'm thinking that you should break it off - it's not good if you're feeling this way after only 5 months. Why waste time on a relationship where you do all of the giving? If anything, the break off might wake him up!
Reply:No you not he with you because of convenience move on you are doing to much !
Reply:i say dump him
Reply:If you want it to work, he should be the one your talking to about this. You've already gotten off to a bad start by not opening the line of communication. Your in your thirties, both of you are probably showing your true colors. He's comfortable really quick with showing them and you are scarred to talk to him about it. You sound more like friends than lovers. It doesn't get better if you never tell him your expectations. His romance levels usually won't go up. It's typical to get the best up front unless you learn to tell him what you require and expect. Get it out of the way now or live with the consequences of not telling him. It's tough to tell your mate what you want, but it's easier than being miserable.
yahoo finance
Do you thinks about Valentine's Day?
I thinks it is the love's day, candy, flowers, and gifts are exchanged between loved ones.
http://hotels-in.blogspot.com/2007/01/va...
Do you thinks about Valentine's Day?
I think its a nice idea, but i get flowers, candy, accolades and am loved everyother day of the year. Why wait until Feb 14 to tell some one how special they are to you?
Reply:I think it's one of those Hallmark holidays, but it's always nice to get some roses. ;)
Reply:Never meant too much to me since high school. Romance? Bah, humbug.
Reply:Yes I thinks about Valentine's Day.
Reply:i think its sad because ive never had a valentine :(
Reply:I think it's absolute commercialism and wait until after the holiday to get the discounted sweets. I don't need a holiday to love and be loved. Maybe people in bad relationships need it?
Reply:Valentine's Day is probably, in theory, my favorite holiday. Never once (except for maybe this year if it lasts, we'll see ) have I had a Valentine and that doesn't stop me. I walk through the halls of my school and I see every popular getting 15 mums from all the guys that wish they were with them and ya that's disgusting, but I guess I just know that if I ever get one it's gonna mean more. Valentine's Day is a day to recognize your loved one's so even if it's not a boyfriend or girlfriend.. you can let your best friends and closest relatives know that you love them. My mom's always gotten my siblings and myself something and wrote us a personalized note to read in the morning. It makes the day not so depressing.
Reply:Valentines day doesnt have to be just for lovers its also for family and friends. Its the month of Love...doenst mean that just becoz its valentines day you have to spent with someone special ..you can also spent it with your friends or family...I spent valentine day with my friends all the time and its one of the best one i had....
Reply:I'm not that fond of it.
I've never had a Valentine, and it's kind of depressing.
Cos, i have to watch all my friend's being loveydovey.
Reply:February 14, 1929.
Reply:I "thinks" about it every February 14th. Do you "thinks" often?
Reply:no more gift . Give only love for my parent , my friend and my pet
Reply:I think my only Valentine this year will be my son. Since I don't have a boyfriend right now, I got funny cards for my female friends and I'm throwing a Valentine's Day party for my son. The kids will each get to decorate his or her own heart-shaped cupcake and we will have heart-related games, like tossing candy hearts into bowls for points. I decorate the living room with cute little heart ornaments and we put heart stickers on the front windows.
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http://hotels-in.blogspot.com/2007/01/va...
Do you thinks about Valentine's Day?
I think its a nice idea, but i get flowers, candy, accolades and am loved everyother day of the year. Why wait until Feb 14 to tell some one how special they are to you?
Reply:I think it's one of those Hallmark holidays, but it's always nice to get some roses. ;)
Reply:Never meant too much to me since high school. Romance? Bah, humbug.
Reply:Yes I thinks about Valentine's Day.
Reply:i think its sad because ive never had a valentine :(
Reply:I think it's absolute commercialism and wait until after the holiday to get the discounted sweets. I don't need a holiday to love and be loved. Maybe people in bad relationships need it?
Reply:Valentine's Day is probably, in theory, my favorite holiday. Never once (except for maybe this year if it lasts, we'll see ) have I had a Valentine and that doesn't stop me. I walk through the halls of my school and I see every popular getting 15 mums from all the guys that wish they were with them and ya that's disgusting, but I guess I just know that if I ever get one it's gonna mean more. Valentine's Day is a day to recognize your loved one's so even if it's not a boyfriend or girlfriend.. you can let your best friends and closest relatives know that you love them. My mom's always gotten my siblings and myself something and wrote us a personalized note to read in the morning. It makes the day not so depressing.
Reply:Valentines day doesnt have to be just for lovers its also for family and friends. Its the month of Love...doenst mean that just becoz its valentines day you have to spent with someone special ..you can also spent it with your friends or family...I spent valentine day with my friends all the time and its one of the best one i had....
Reply:I'm not that fond of it.
I've never had a Valentine, and it's kind of depressing.
Cos, i have to watch all my friend's being loveydovey.
Reply:February 14, 1929.
Reply:I "thinks" about it every February 14th. Do you "thinks" often?
Reply:no more gift . Give only love for my parent , my friend and my pet
Reply:I think my only Valentine this year will be my son. Since I don't have a boyfriend right now, I got funny cards for my female friends and I'm throwing a Valentine's Day party for my son. The kids will each get to decorate his or her own heart-shaped cupcake and we will have heart-related games, like tossing candy hearts into bowls for points. I decorate the living room with cute little heart ornaments and we put heart stickers on the front windows.
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What should I do in this situation?
After 38 yrs I met 34 yr old lady who is my ideal woman. She is similar to me and a very approachable person, she is genuine and I know she is on the same wavelength as me.
We are comfortable in each others presence and when I'm near her I really notice the comfortableness. I have never met anyone that appears to be into the same things as me and share the same personality traits.
Anyway she showed an interest so I asked her out and she said yes and then changed it to no. Months later it appearred it was still on her mind but she has pushed me away. I know we would get on well but yesterday I found out it was her work xmas party.
She was there with another staff member and kep putting her arms round the guy. I dont know if she likes him or he is just very good friends with her. There is some affinity between them.
What should I do? Walkaway or try and win her over? I don't want to buy her with flowers or gifts etc and I think it has to come from her.
What should I do in this situation?
You need to take a reality check. Have a look at yourself and see if you are the kind of person she wants in her life. Most people are attracted to the same things - Confident without being too cocky, being fun and not dragging those around you down, being able to have a balaned, normal conversation without trying to score points, being comfortable in the middle of a crowd but not needing the spotlight on you.
If you really like this girl then you might be better off making an off-the-cuff remark about something you know she feels secure with. For example, if she's quite fashion-savvy, a short cheeky passing comment about how her shoes don't quite go with her handbag (with a cheeky smile and smooth exit) might be a quick way of getting her attention. Above all, don't act like you 'need' her - thats the biggest turn-off going.
And you're right about the flowers and stuff - this is great if you're in a relationship but total disaster if you're trying to get one going. If she has half a brain, she'll be attracted to the guy, not the gifts.
Best of luck.
Reply:keep your cool, act like you are not interested and she will come crawling!
Reply:Yea, just sit back, what will be will be.
Reply:I would lean toward this: people do not change but very little as time goes by. By the time that people are approaching their forties and are pretty much settled in their ways.
So, the easy thing to do would be to walk away.
However, as I understand it, getting together at a later point in life than the usual twenties thing can be more difficult. I also put a good deal of faith in quiet moments together. You said that you were comfortable together and this was likely communicated in silence; this is probably a good indicator that you are on the right track.
All that you should do is what comes naturally to you considering what the desire of your heart is; and that is to experience again and for the long term the togetherness that you had before. You just need to be sincere and open whenever she is around; to be so is a certain feeling - trust, I would say.
I think that if she senses that you are willing to be open to her and that you do not fear closeness (figuratively), she is likely to reciprocate.
I wish you well in your efforts.
Reply:Okay, you did SOMETHING between the point you met her, and the point she was pushing you away to come across as a "needy guy"... Were you like calling to confirm your date, or expressing "over interest DIRECTLY to her" before you got together (judging from what I'm reading, you probably did)?
If she is locked into the guy, then walk away.. If you keep "Leaning on her ethericlly", you are going to lose ALL your social value, and be worse than you are now...
Be aloof, and just go onto the next thing...
HOWEVER, if you do bump into her, start "teasing her (playfully)", and DONT LEAN!!!!.... Thats the BEST you can do at this point
Reply:So you were meant to go out but she pulled out, why ??? you don't say later shes out at a works do arms around some guy
, come on man wake up!!! forget flowers and chocolates noww, if she wanted you you would not be writing in here, plz save yourself from being trampled on , move on m8 cos she has already, find a lady whos worthy of you cos she ain't no wayyyyy.
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We are comfortable in each others presence and when I'm near her I really notice the comfortableness. I have never met anyone that appears to be into the same things as me and share the same personality traits.
Anyway she showed an interest so I asked her out and she said yes and then changed it to no. Months later it appearred it was still on her mind but she has pushed me away. I know we would get on well but yesterday I found out it was her work xmas party.
She was there with another staff member and kep putting her arms round the guy. I dont know if she likes him or he is just very good friends with her. There is some affinity between them.
What should I do? Walkaway or try and win her over? I don't want to buy her with flowers or gifts etc and I think it has to come from her.
What should I do in this situation?
You need to take a reality check. Have a look at yourself and see if you are the kind of person she wants in her life. Most people are attracted to the same things - Confident without being too cocky, being fun and not dragging those around you down, being able to have a balaned, normal conversation without trying to score points, being comfortable in the middle of a crowd but not needing the spotlight on you.
If you really like this girl then you might be better off making an off-the-cuff remark about something you know she feels secure with. For example, if she's quite fashion-savvy, a short cheeky passing comment about how her shoes don't quite go with her handbag (with a cheeky smile and smooth exit) might be a quick way of getting her attention. Above all, don't act like you 'need' her - thats the biggest turn-off going.
And you're right about the flowers and stuff - this is great if you're in a relationship but total disaster if you're trying to get one going. If she has half a brain, she'll be attracted to the guy, not the gifts.
Best of luck.
Reply:keep your cool, act like you are not interested and she will come crawling!
Reply:Yea, just sit back, what will be will be.
Reply:I would lean toward this: people do not change but very little as time goes by. By the time that people are approaching their forties and are pretty much settled in their ways.
So, the easy thing to do would be to walk away.
However, as I understand it, getting together at a later point in life than the usual twenties thing can be more difficult. I also put a good deal of faith in quiet moments together. You said that you were comfortable together and this was likely communicated in silence; this is probably a good indicator that you are on the right track.
All that you should do is what comes naturally to you considering what the desire of your heart is; and that is to experience again and for the long term the togetherness that you had before. You just need to be sincere and open whenever she is around; to be so is a certain feeling - trust, I would say.
I think that if she senses that you are willing to be open to her and that you do not fear closeness (figuratively), she is likely to reciprocate.
I wish you well in your efforts.
Reply:Okay, you did SOMETHING between the point you met her, and the point she was pushing you away to come across as a "needy guy"... Were you like calling to confirm your date, or expressing "over interest DIRECTLY to her" before you got together (judging from what I'm reading, you probably did)?
If she is locked into the guy, then walk away.. If you keep "Leaning on her ethericlly", you are going to lose ALL your social value, and be worse than you are now...
Be aloof, and just go onto the next thing...
HOWEVER, if you do bump into her, start "teasing her (playfully)", and DONT LEAN!!!!.... Thats the BEST you can do at this point
Reply:So you were meant to go out but she pulled out, why ??? you don't say later shes out at a works do arms around some guy
, come on man wake up!!! forget flowers and chocolates noww, if she wanted you you would not be writing in here, plz save yourself from being trampled on , move on m8 cos she has already, find a lady whos worthy of you cos she ain't no wayyyyy.
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