A gift for a mom and dad that just miscarried?

My cousin that lives 6 hrs. away had a miscarriage and just had the service today for her baby. She was 8 months along. What can I send to them as a gift besides flowers?

A gift for a mom and dad that just miscarried?
I am so sorry the loss of your cousin's baby. The best thing you can do is listen to whatever she needs to say, or even just sit with her in sympathy as she cries, or says nothing.


Please try not to talk about ''next time.'' Aside from the fact that there may not be a next time (some things are just not up to us), her grief is for this time, this child, who was already loved and welcome in their lives. If there is a subsequent child, that child will not be a substitute for the one she lost, and will not erase the grief of this initial loss. Time and subsequent children may make the loss easier to bear, but the loss will always be there, and that must be respected. It has been four years since I lost my daughter at 7 1/2 months which is a stillbirth, and I miss her right alongside the love I feel for the ones I am currently carrying. Some people really like angels to symbolize for their unborn babies. Or a pendant she could wear - symbolic of her being a mother. And then the other idea is a tree or something she could plant in the baby's memory.... Hope this works
Reply:You have to be careful with this because you don't want to send them something they will have around as a negative reminder. I like your idea with the necklace, really. Something small is probably best, but not directly related to a baby.
Reply:put pictures of the baby from ultra sounds, and pictures of her thgourut her preganncy in a scrap book. I would like it!!
Reply:No gift. Just your sympathies.
Reply:to be honest the best gift you can give is a kind word and a hug, sending gifts after something like that happens just keeps throwing it in there face. they need time to grieve in private
Reply:I think the necklace is a wonderful idea, but I would wait a bit of time or it might make her feel worse. Right now, she is thinking about how she will never be able to hold her baby and she/he will never have had a chance to even take it's first breath. The necklace may remind her of that right now and it may be too much.





I know from experience, that right now she is going to be too emotionally and physically tired from this loss to want to do anything else. Something she would appreciate would be something like a gift card to a grocery store or other place that she can buy already made meals. If you are going to visit her, bring her several days worth of food frozen. We did this for a friend of our who suffered a similar tragedy. I hope that helps. I really do think the necklace is a lovely idea, but I might wait a little while. Or you can get her angel for her Christmas tree that has the birthstone.
Reply:What a terrible loss and while there isn't much anyone can say or do right now to make them feel better I think your necklace idea is a good one. She will never forget her baby and recovering from this loss will be a long painful healing process. The necklace is a beautiful way to keep their baby's memory close to her heart. I think it is a very thoughtful gift.
Reply:The best thing you can do is to keep her from distracting herself from the mourning process. The more work she has to do, the more she will distract herself and the longer it will take her to heal. If you can bring them food and maybe run some errands for them, so that they don't have to do anything, that would be the most beneficial. This will be just as hard for her, in a different way, as if the baby had already been born. She's already developed that motherly love for the baby. Just give her support and love. Most gifts will probably be taken the wrong way. Give her a shoulder and an ear.





It would be a good idea to wait till she is out of the first stages of mourning before you give her gifts that remind her of the baby that she couldn't have. A birthstone will only make her think directly about the fact that she can't enjoy the baby's new arrival or his company or many of the great things babies bring to our lives.
Reply:send your love and tell her that you will always be there for her words often mean more than gifts so sorry
Reply:TRY PUTTING TOWARDS THE HEADSTONE OR REALEASING SOME BALLOONS
Reply:One of my family members just lost her baby too at 8 months. Her baby was due in October. A necklace with an October birthstone does sound nice. I would just go with that. That is such an awful thing to happen. I actually just found out about my husbands cousin today. No one had told me and I still am feeling so bad about it right now. Send that necklace, some nice flowers and a card.
Reply:That's a tuff one. Can you send them for a night away together so that they can get away from their surroundings and escape for a few hours?
Reply:I'M SORRY FOR THE LOST.....BUT I THINK THE NECKLACE WITH THE OCTOBER BIRTHSTONE IS PRECIOUS IDEA..AND IF THEY PICKED OUT A NAME FOR THE BABY PUT THAT ON THE NECKLACE TOO....GOD BLESS THEM...
Reply:Thats horrible. I would send them some kind of special keepsake, like a precious moments angel, or something like that. My cousin had a baby that only lived 22 hours, and my dad took a picture he had of him and put it in a frame with a really nice poem with it. They were very touched and loved it.



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