Should I consider his proposal?

Was w/my ex for three years. He cheated on after the 1st year. Once i busted him he came back saying he will never do it again nas far as I know never did. After that we were together for 2 more years where we had our good times n really really bad time eg.he refused to buy me a drink on my b'day, would pinch pennies, fought about driving, would not consider my feelings but bought me gifts n flowers. N he never committed to getting married which is what I wanted.I got tired of it n called it off. It's been almost 4 months now.. he won't leave me alone. He has told his parents that i'm the girl for him ( his mom hated me), he's ready to get a new place for us to move into, he's already popped the question over the phone nnow he is willing to go to counseling for me get over the cheating nmistreatment.. in the past he's mostly lived up to what he has said but not always..


Now should i give him a shot..I'm so confused.. Am i being over sensitive n seeking perfection. Are my fears real?

Should I consider his proposal?
Q: can you see yourself without him ?


A:(a)if no then marry him already!!


(b)if yes move on and keep going!!!
Reply:it is not about seeking perfection, it is all about being with someone who you totally respect and who respects you
Reply:I think you answered the question yourself. You are seeking perfection. If you truly loved him, even his faults (and his mistake in cheating)..he would be perfect.
Reply:Consider it but take it slow . You love him so it could be good if there are no other women. Maybe when his mom gets to really know you you can explain to her and then she will understand . He is the light in your life and whats best is that you both really not just like each other ,but ,you love each other . Take it slow . There is so much you need to tell him and be very honest about your fears . Thats the really good part about you 2 ... You can be very honest b/c as a spouse or lover you have to be true to each other ! Good luck . p.s. don't take the engagement serious untill you really spend lots of time together ...and get a band ...!!
Reply:You haven't said one good thing about him. Re-read your post. The answer is in there. Remember -- you teach people how to treat you. If you are willing to accept his behavior then that is what you get...and what you're willing to settle for. Key word is settle.
Reply:There is a saying "A leopard never changes his spots". Give the guy the flick my dear...... He sounds very manipulative. Do not mess up the rest of life with this guy. There are so many other men out there who will treat you so much better. Then again if you are so madly in love with him, go wreck your life because he ain't going to change even with counselling. Marriage should be forever with someone who will trust you, won't mistreat you, won't cheat(once a cheater, always a cheater), and love you for who you are without question.
Reply:you should move on, he only wants you when he sees you are not putting up with and treats you good and makes all these promises to get you back. will he really change who knows, but you are just wasting your time, esp if his mom hates you.
Reply:Stop seeing him for a while and date other guys. You will know whether he is really right for you or not. Do you really believe that you deserve this type of treatment? I don't know how old he is, but sounds like he still needs to grow up emotionally. Do you really want to be in a family that doesn't like you from start? There are so many other "well adjusted" persons to date.
Reply:You could give him another chance, I'd hold off on the marring until the counseling well under way!
Reply:Sounds like a jerk...and proposed on the PHONE?


Sheesh. There are better fish out there, throw this one back and go fishing for others.
Reply:i consider myself a player... dont marry this guy, penny pinchers are the worst... he has issues... dont inherit a terrible mother-in-law either..
Reply:Sorry, just end it. Too much drama and hes an freakin jerk.
Reply:Your fears are real. You're not being over sensitive or seeking perfection, you're just being realistic and seeking someone who will treat you right. This clown will NOT treat you right. Ditch him and go find yourself a keeper. Good luck in your pursuit of happiness!
Reply:If you give him another chance after everything he has put you through already, you are truly the biggest sucker ever born. You have wasted three years of your life on him already. Don't you think that's enough?
Reply:I am not very old and definitely inexperienced in this matter...But what i have learnt in these 18 and a half years of my life is to listen to my heart...Whenever i do something that i think is right,i don't regret it later on...And i can't blame anyone...But listening to others will always leave room for blaming others...


Think carefully if u love him and you would like to spend your life with him,irrespectie of what he is...Concentrate on your relationship with him for now...Think about the parents later on...


After analysing,decide for yourself and be happy with your decision...
Reply:Yeah, seems like he's a jerk. If he cheated once, it's easier second time around.





Don't fall to your wishful thinking. You might think he's fixed but honestly, follow your mind, not heart this time around.
Reply:you are not being over sensetive he cheated on you after a year together and you took him back something most womenn would never do. After three years of not changing and lossing you now he wants to change i think if you really beleive he is sincere and he is the guy for you and that is what you want give it chance. But set rules make sure he knows he has to treat you right and regain his trust. Only if you are sure he is the guy for you if you have any doubts i would say try and move on.
Reply:ya,you can do .



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