What do I do about my girlfriend's ex?

He buys her gifts and flowers, and the other day she showed me a text message that he ended with "wondering what ur wearing" She doesn't respond to any of this other than with a polite thank you for the gifts, but she doesn't discourage it either.





We've been dating for a year, and I find his behavior disrespectful to me, and I'm angry at my girlfriend for allowing him to disrespect me. She has told him before that she doesn't want to date him ever again, but I believe she doesn't do it emphatically enough and that she needs to reinforce it every once in a while, especially when he sends those text messages.





Am I wrong to be angry at this behavior? I don't care if they have a friendly relationship, it doesn't bother me at all, it's just the gifts and the text messages...

What do I do about my girlfriend's ex?
She should absolutely NOT be accepting gifts or flowers from him. It's okay to be friendly with an ex, but when that person can't respect the boundaries of the 'friendship', it's time to end it. When he gives them to her, she should decline, tell him it's inappropriate and point out that she is dating with someone and out of respect for his feelings, if he continues to give them to her and send those messages, that they can't have contact with each other anymore. You're not wrong to be angry.
Reply:tlk to him first lay down the law!!! if nuthin changes kick his azz Report It

Reply:Your's is a perfectly natural response as primitive as it may be. DO NOT DO ANYTHING. If you let this fester you will find yourself in a jealousy spell. It will get you nowhere. Just remember, she comes to your arms not his. Ignore it! Eventually he will tire and she will appreciate your trust in her. Your relationship will be stronger for it.
Reply:Your girlfriend isn't allowing anyone to "disrespect" you. She can't give someone permission to do this.





she has no control over the fact YOU FEEL disrespected. No one controls your feelings but YOU.





saying that, if she's thanking him for gifts and still talking with him (even just saying thanks) it's an encouragement for HIM and he probably thinks there is some hope left?





he's also needy and rather odd.





if you dno't like the situation, separate from or break up with your girlfriend.





apparently, she will continue this behavior as long as she feels like it.
Reply:Leave or youll be miserable forever my friend, tell her she is not ready to move on, I am sorry but your girlfriend indeed does not consider your feelings at all, she is selfish period, she wants it all and there you are giving it and moaning....... you have options, put up with it, give her conditions for your staying or leave
Reply:no man there is nothing wrong with your behavior. if my gf's ex did that....it wouldnt fly. stand up man, tell her she must confront that guy and stop it
Reply:You have the right to be upset about anything that bothers you especially when it involves your significant other. Help your girlfriend resolve the situation by supporting her. If you care enough about her that some day you may marry her, you should start putting her first and she you. She is number one family second, then friends. The exes dont even show up on the countdown, unless kids are involved.
Reply:Don't worry about his behavior. Your girlfriend is the one with a problem. She should be threatening him with a restraining order. The fact that she shows you text messages shows how insecure she is. Why else would she need to make you jealous? I never suggest this but...dump her! She is a train wreck waiting to happen.
Reply:Maybe she still wants him back.
Reply:your not wrong to be angry. if i were you id politly talk to him in perso not on msn or that cuz that could change the feeling and say "hey dude thx for the presents and stuff for my girlfriend but i dont feel comfy with the situation. so treat just as you treat any body else."





hope that helps.





oh yeah one more tip, id become more of a friend to him before saying this first cuz he might get sad or angry and if hes some buff kid he might kick your ***. :) so jus get to know him better if you dont for your own protection :) .
Reply:my girlfriend was close to a pretty close to a guy (not as close as your situation) at first i ignored it and it got worse so i talked to him.. i asked him politely if he could stop doing stuff with her (such as giving gifts) but they could obviously be good friends still.. and it worked out great



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