Why is it at the start of a fling you get lots of attention, but when the new wears off, you feel invisible?

Me and my fiancee have been together for two years, and at the beginning I felt like a princess.....we went out on dates, he bought me simple little gifts and flowers, now I feel like I don't even exsist! He plays the XBOX all the time and he never takes me out on dates. We broke up because of it a few months ago and all of the sudden the attention was back......but it didn't stay for long..I'm being ingnored again!!! HELP!! I've tried everything! I feel like a ghost in his presence....I have even tried standing in front of the TV naked!!! NOTHING!

Why is it at the start of a fling you get lots of attention, but when the new wears off, you feel invisible?
Girl...it isnt right....he did everything to get you but once he has you he takes you for granted...you deserve alot more. Relationships need to be nutured and loved to each other everyday...you can see his pattern. Maybe you do everything for him and he feels secure in that respect. But do you want to marry someone that igonores you of all people, the one that is going to spend his life with you.





Your not a toy so when its convenient for him you need the love and affection you deserve. Not just to keep you satisfied but to remind you everyday why hes with you and what he means to you... maybe you need to part see what else is out there. maybe then he will realize what he missed out on life...you. good luck
Reply:That's how most men are, my husband became like that till i started ignoring him now he has his act stright Report It

Reply:"Familiarity breeds contempt." It will only get worse once you marry. Think about that.
Reply:HE MAY HAVE CONTRACTED A CASE OF ' THE GAYS'.
Reply:Well, I guess that happens when the newness wears off. You can't remain in a state of euphoria forever. However, your fiance seems more nonchalant than most. Doesn't he realize when you stand in front of him naked, you're trying to tell him something? Perhaps you should show him all these answers. But if you really want to stay with him, you'd better learn to get used to his ways. They will probably only get worse. Can you take that? I couldn't. I'm sorry.
Reply:Is he playing halo? If he is that's a very addictive game for guys. Just because he's not showering you with attention doesn't mean he doesn't care about you. Like a lot of people he probably feels comfortable enough with you that he feels like he doesn't need to to do those things like he did at first. Even if you hate video games why don't you try playing with him? It'll allow him to share with you somthing he enjoys and you'll still be spending time together.Also make time for yourself as well. Couples do need "alone" time as well. I hope this helps. Don't throw a tantrum it'll only make it worse.
Reply:Your in deep trouble and its not going to get better believe me . Hes got and addiction first of all . It ruined my brothers marriage . The video games are the culprit ! I would say he has to get help just like any other addiction and it might or might not work . I suggest a new bf that is mature enough to give you what you need !
Reply:Yes sometimes life is just like a bath...after a while, it's just not that hot anymore. Sounds to me like you need to find a new fling, cuz this one isn't going to get much better after you marry.
Reply:because it was a FLING! Look for a relationship and you won't have this problem.
Reply:very hard to find a consistent guy. most of them are like that.


there's a reason why you broke up with him in the first place, and he just proved that he can't change. you decide what you want to do about it.


you can fight and change him to be the guy you first date or you can walk away.
Reply:it's called regret.
Reply:nothing to conquer. explored territory is what you are to him.
Reply:well that's what happens...he has a new box and is tired of your box. do something to get him out of the house. go skinny dipping some where. or try this tell him since he is busy playing the xbox from now on when he is on the game that you are going to the club or bar.. and if he says ok you need to find yourself a new guy....first your build a relationship. then you do some courting .... sounds like he has lost interest in you id sure think about it before marrying him.....just use your imagination you can find something to get him back..
Reply:You're lucky you didn't marry the guy. Your problems will be magnified 10 fold.
Reply:Chemicals that the body produce as we fall in love.. then a different chemical develops as it is just good to be around you to a different chemical that makes us comfortalbe... lol





Glady
Reply:it always starts off good in the beginning. He did it in your case to win your heart. He did that. He doesn't need to fight for you now so now he does as he pleases until you start whinning again. People only do what you allow them to do.. or as the post above said. he caught the "gays"
Reply:This may be what marriage looks like for you, maybe you should reconsider before its too late.



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