Should I leave my Husband?

I have been married for 13 years this August. (2) months ago, I got a phone call from a woman saying she was having an affair with my husband, and was at my house... I flipped. He says it was a lie, that a girl @ his job was hating on him. He started being super nice, bought me gifts and flowers. He never bought me any proof that it was a lie. I just don't feel the same anymore. He didn't even get angry at his job or anyone. Am I being an *** staying with him. Because now the niceness is over now that things have gone back to normal. Should I leave... This is not his first run-in with other women. He has breached my trust on several occasions. Nothing ever concrete, just looked suspicious. Need some really good input...Thanx

Should I leave my Husband?
How do you really KNOW the girl has told you the truth? I think you need to sit them both down ans ask them for the proof - from her that he is cheating and from him that he is'nt. If either of them can't do this then you need to decide if the marriage is worth saving.





Having said this, i think you amy want to believe your husband, especially as he is trying to prove to you that he isn't cheating by treating you better than he usually does. Surely 13 years is worth more than a few words?
Reply:Ask her what the inside of your house looks like!
Reply:I have always felt like if the trust is gone the relationship is over. How can you ever have a normal reationship without trust. You can never feel stable and completely loved in a relationship without trust. Even if my husband flirts I never get mad or upset because the bond of trust we have has never been violated. I wish you luck but I could not be with any one I didn't trust
Reply:Your instinct is intact...take heed and get out!!!!!
Reply:once you might believe him


but several ?


yes leave him the sooner the better


he is more than like;y cheating on you
Reply:Well, you certainly have the grounds to leave him, but as you said, there is no proof. Trust is a fickle thing. We don't need concrete evidence to convict someone of a crime. We just need reasonable doubt that they are not innocent. You have this.





However, what if you're wrong? The evidence suggests that you are right in your suspicions, but without concrete evidence there's really no telling.





For instance, the lady who said she called you from your house. Where were you? Is there a way to check the phone records for that day?





I would recommend hiring a private detective. Get some photos or video evidence that proves you are right before you do anything rash. When it concerns a divorce for infidelity, you want to be absolutely sure.
Reply:I guess you just have to ask yourself if you want to live every day of the rest of your life with this mistrust. And if its worth risking AIDS or something that will make it difficult in the future to be a parent to your kids or find a trustworthy mate.





good luck
Reply:if some dude, was pissed at u, for no good reason, and decided to call ur husband, and tell him he was banging u at his house....and u knew u were being honest, wouldn't u think u'd flip out...and that u wouldn't feel guilty into buying flowers etc..gifts .. to apologize , cuz u didn't do nohitng.u'd just flip out on the psycho claling ur husband and make a point to let him know about it..so all in all, ur hubbylying his *** off, u know it, he knows it, and sadly he thinks he's slick and got away w/ it...thats the worst feeling, little ******...so pack ur bags, or pack his on out....this is not healthy, and he needs to run wild since he can't keep his u know what in his pants.
Reply:Please read your words. "Not the first time...several occasions"


Listen to your gut. The luster is gone. I guarantee, he'll stray again. They usually do. In your heart, and in time you'll make the decision that YOU will need for YOU.


And that's when you'll ask yourself why it took you so long......
Reply:how about cheaters.com ? the tv show that explits such events for the expense of the public (on-air) exposure of the case ?
Reply:I would ask her face to face if she can tell you about his body parts then you got your proof,I would ask her in front of him. Don't fight her it's not worth it and he would like that.Hide a tape recorder and tape what she says..If you really feel he cheated leave.
Reply:You need to sit and have a long talk with your husband. You should pray for him and for yourself so that you can have clarity on what to do. That is a big decision to make. You can start new from this day forward and set up boundaries as to what you will and will not accept. You must stand your ground because if you don't, he will continue to do the same things. Remember...we teach people how to treat us....


God Bless
Reply:hire a detective to follow him. just be ready for what they find out
Reply:yep I would leave FAST!!!!!! Once a man betrays he ll keep on doing it especially if he knows that he can come back to u and all is forgiven! no one deserves to be treated like a doormat
Reply:There is no reason to stay with that scum bag.





Whether male or female there is no reason to cheat. If he is having problems with the relationship then he should have talked to you and look into seeking counseling not cheating.





Your relationship with him will never be the same. You do not deserve to be with someone so low that would do something like that.





Find someone that is going to cherish you and treat you right.
Reply:BOTTOM LINE leave the dog ...once a dog always a dog ... by now you should haved learned what a WET DOG smells like !!!
Reply:Leave with your dignity, you dont need more proof.
Reply:People dont go through the trouble of calling the wife unless there is a little truth to it. Could she describe your home and what was in it? That would of been your proof. I think you should trust your gut. That feeling that something isnt right isnt going to go away. I would definitely get to the bottom of it so you can move on.
Reply:I think your lack of faith in him says everything you need to know. If you have no trust, you have no foundation for a relationship (not a healthy one anyway). A relationship is only as good as the two people in it. If he fooled you twice(or more for that matter), it's no wonder you don't feel the same. If you always have to fret inside over what or who he's doing, it comes at the price of YOUR peace-of-mind. Is he really worth that to you? It's okay to love someone and want things to work out, but you have to love yourself as much or more as you do the man! A good indicator of future behavior is past repetitive behavior. Let that be your guide. If it doesn't feel right, it probably isn't, and there is nothing wrong with walking out of something that is not good for your well-being.
Reply:From experience, you are always going to have the little doubt on your mind, that he is cheating. He needs to stop getting himself involved in situations that make him "suspicious", if he is not doing something wrong, and you need to let him know that you are serious, if it happens again then what other concrete proof do you need? to walk in on him in action?



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