Why is she playing me ??? All i wanted is for her to be happy ???

got back wd my gf last week after fighting hard for her, plus she told me she loved me for the first time. i made her feel special bought her gifts perfumes flowers nearly every week Gf went on holiday on SUN, so i met her on Sat and bought her a 200£ chanel purse as a holiday pres. In the cinema she said to me " i should buy her some earings" i was stunned and said give me the purse back and ill buy you some earings instead and she said to me "why cant she have both". i havent even slept with her, cos before me she was with a guy for 4 years therefore i didnt wanna pressure her. I dnt care if she used me, I don’t why she can treat a guy like this who only wanted to make her happy ??? each time i make advances she rejects even kisses. am lucky even if i get a kiss. i rung her 2day and b4 i put the fone down i asked for a kiss, she repleid saying "she cant cos she getting ready" why am i so nice i even give her 10£ for a taxi to her freinds house. please help?? is she using me ?

Why is she playing me ??? All i wanted is for her to be happy ???
its not about how many gifts you could give her, so stop and besides it seems that's all she wanted .and you don't have to be sleeping with her either ..
Reply:Yep. She's using you and you're a big sucker.





Love...REAL love... is not contingent on gifts and purchases. If you're keeping a tally of what you spend on her, then you already know this and already don't feel comfortable with it.





I watch men spend exorbitant amounts of money on women at the start of a relationship, and then when she's gone through their cash, they find themselves alone. You can buy affection, you can buy sex, but you can;t buy love. And from the sound of things, you aren't even getting the affection or sex, so what the hell are you paying for anyways?





Make yourself happy first, get into that place where you don't need her, and then you'll find someone who loves you for you and wants to make you as happy as you make her.
Reply:She's just using you.
Reply:some girls like doing that
Reply:You bought her love and now you're paying the price. Let her go and move on.
Reply:Ok. Here let me give you the best advice ever because I was that girl once. She is interested in you as a "person" or she wouldn't bother with you at all. You have given her power she likes that. Now she is manipulating you into doing things for her by dangling the perverbial carrot HER. Answer my questions.


A. Are you older then her by much?


B. Is she from a lower educational and economical bracket?


C. Is she too hot for you?


Answer these and you will see the truth. The truth is always harder to see when we don't want to. I feel for you I have just lost a guy I really loved it's hard but you got to do the right thing. Let her go save yourself from being the fool imagine how much harder it would be if you were messing with her. Be free of this golddigger.
Reply:yes she's using you, play a little harder to get, stop giving her attention all the time she is to used to expecting you there at her beck n call, believe me cool it a bit and she will come running
Reply:From what you wrote, it definitly sounds like she is using you. Drop her or tell her that maybe we should take a break. If she really loves you, she will be devastated. Another thing you could do is stop spoiling her. See how she'll treat you when all the gifts stop coming. Anyway, your situation sucks because no one wants to be used. I hope you find out her motives because if they aren't good, someone else's will be
Reply:please find a girl who will appreciate the things you do don't waste it on this gold digger
Reply:hmmm gold digger alert....stop buying her gifts and see how long he sticks around.....she is definitely taking advantage of your generosity, so stop lavishing her with gifts and see if she's still around in 3 months...she is not i love with you...she's in love with your wallet hun...wake up....the more you allow it...the more she will want....yes, she's using you...she is take take take, and no give give give...I'd keep a close eye on this girl...she sounds really phony to me....be careful
Reply:Mug - a lesson well learnt.....so learn it and move on....





Otherwise it will become very painful, you will lose confidence and self esteem and by the sounds of it an awful lot of money.......





Women are users....or they can be the nasty ones. Whether that be normal women who simply like having things bought for them under the guise of it being romantics....to the really serious leaches that are out there.....





If you have to ask such a question then you know that it is all over for you and this particular lady...
Reply:YES.. She is using you! And she probably has another guy on the side that she considers actually dating which would be why she isn't kissing you and your not getting anything outta the deal.. but you buy her things so she loves the attention! You sound like one of those guys that is soo nice that the girl doesn't want to date you but they want you to be there whenever they need something, since you will go outta your way for them. If you see her take the purse back and return it and tell her to go screw herself you shouldn't be treated like that..... haha.. or go buy her earings.. some nice CZ haha they wont cost you must and hopefully she is dumb so she wont realize they are fake! :-P But yeah get outta that.. your too good for her!
Reply:In Word simple Word YES! it's time for you to cut this girl out of your life and find someone who Will respect you and care for you and not just use you for your money!
Reply:Why ask the same question again - you are attention seeking - ditch the trog - move on - jeez
Reply:she's using you badly
Reply:yep sounds like she's playing you along nicely there, but you seem to be falling for it big time! get out while you can mate, it's not gunna be any good for you.





all i have to ask is why would you buy someone a £200 purse as a holiday present when you haven't even kissed the girl? it seems to me she is just playing you along to see how much she'll get before you give in. it doesn't even sound like she's all that interested in you either



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