How to solve a difficult relationship?

The story started 2years ago, when i met one very cute guy. Our friends were common so we all started hang out together.


I did like him, but he felt in love with me.


Than he went to teh army academy for a year and any kind of my interests cooled down. During this period, he wrote me some love letters, send me flowers, small gifts..


I didin't respond to his feelings teh same way motivating that my feelings are not as strong as love.


Now he's back from teh academy and..is avoiding me. We meet in many same parteis but he never speeks to me, exept "hi" "thanks" , etc.


How to make him understand that i didn't intend to hurt him, that life goes on and we may still be friends.


He is not teh type of guy who would like to speek about his own feelings.


Any advises?

How to solve a difficult relationship?
May be, he might have found his love with someother girl, when he was away. Firt find out this stuff. Then also you have your rights depends on how close youtwo are. Just talk to him first.
Reply:If he doesn't like to speak about his own feelings, don't make him do so. If he's already been hurt, even if accidentally by your attitude, it's not good to keep pushing him.


I understand you didn't love him. Still, take into account that he had some feelings for you, and that he expressed them in very nice, sweet ways. If you want to tell him you would still like to be his friend, maybe you could do it in the same way: be sweet and nice (I don't mean romantic), and write him a letter telling him that you did like him, but didn't want a boyfriend, and that you would like to be his friend.


That way, he can keep acting as he has, if he chooses to, or become friendlier if he wants to, but he won't feel pushed to do anything, or humiliated by talking to you.


Take his feelings into account.


Good luck.
Reply:Yes. Give it time.


You did not want to hurt him, but his feelings not being returned hurt him. He needs time to accept seeing you as just a friend.
Reply:Move on, everybody can't be your friend!If he loved you like you say he did ,he would have confronted you to find out what was going on.His little pride is hurt because you don't want him.Move on.
Reply:just carry on as you have been, he will adjust in his own time.
Reply:Pride is a tough pill to swallow. You might have to bite the bullet and sit him down and explain it to him just like you said it. It may hurt for you alittle and he will probably not like you much but atleast the truth is out and noone is wondering what happened or who is going to say what.
Reply:ya, u realy hurted him, if u want to be his good frend then u must have to give answers of his letters , rather than ignore him, if u could do that on that time then at this time u might be good frends. but now u must have to say sorry to him if u want to continue ur frendship or forget him for a lifetime
Reply:This is actually a decent question...you MUST 1st realize that LOVE....is something you CANNOT mess with!, and if he truly did love you(none of that puppy dog crap), this is something only he can solve..patience, he will more than likely come around.


In experience I've noticed if a girl is in Love she will bounce back in time..if a guy has the same level of love it will take twice as long. Women don't understand that guys are not as emotionally in tune as you are and these things take longer for us...hang in there.





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Reply:talk to him anyway and explain ur side of things if he doesnt want to reply r answer u thats up to him but if u let him know how u felt throughout the time he was away and how u feel now u will atleast feel less guilty when u run into him
Reply:first learn to spell or even use the spell checker then write him a letter explaining all your feelings its alot easier than trying face to face.
Reply:The fact is you DID hurt him, and he most likely does NOT want to be your friend. You should just accept the fact that the two of you will not be friends, and move on.
Reply:It is actually his problem. As long as you were open and honest with him that you did not feel the same towards him as he did towards you, then you just have to let him get over it.





Sometimes people fall hard over another, and this is what he has done. He may have jumped the gun a bit in thinking and maybe hoping that you felt the same as he.





He is angry, disappointed, upset, etc., and you'll simply have to let him be until he finds someone else who does share his feelings.





You are truly doing him a favour by not leading him on - he will have to realize that some day.





Eventually, he may or may not come around but you did the best thing by him.
Reply:jus like solving a difficult math prob...give it time patience n understanding
Reply:try to understand each other!
Reply:Let him do his own thing I'm sure after time he will just grow up and forgive and forget
Reply:as you earlier hurted him what can do is just tell him what was your true intention at that time. y were you not responding. and now analyse what you want from him now? do your thinkings synchronise? it may me possible he doesnot need a friend out of you. he just needs a beloved. if he still thinks about you seriously then he will listen to you. otherwise move ahead.
Reply:Send him a letter and then ask him in the same letter to meet you out to a nearby cafe or a walk in the park as FRIENDS. That should break the ice and who knows, you may be the best of friends later. Definitely, do not bring anything up if he does meet you out, just keep it light and be friends. If he brings it up then go into it but not deeply, just leave it as we are better as friend is all. I've been there and have done this twice already, it works like a charm and they are both my best friends



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