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Say you have been with someone for 6 years and never have they got you any cards flowers or gifts on any occassions and its not because of their religion or belives,yet they continue seeing you no wedding date set ,you love them and are intime with eachother yet not said I love you to eachother yet is there others that have had similar situations is this normal ?

Need a man and women to answer honest?
normal is a hard concept to define. Are you happy? i guess thats the biggest question you should be asking yourself. Have you talked to your partner about your concerns? is it worth working at? some people show their love in different ways... if you do want to work at this relationship, then try talking to him/her and tell them everything you just told us, if he/she is not willing to put in more effort, then yes, maybe it is time to move on.
Reply:I think in most cases:


Girl are alway looking for a commitment somewhere, they always want to be loved and pampered, and though of all the time.


Men just want to take one day at a time. Go with the flow, they will adore you for the gifts they recieve but never think to get you one. Nothing personall, just men for you.


( not all men and women are like that-sometimes it is the other way around.)
Reply:you've been w someone 6 yrs and you havent said "i love you" or given you a present?!!?!?!? wtf?! hm..... so, how do you know he/she cares? just bc u get along w someone and are intimate doesnt even make you a couple! i wouldnt consider this relationship normal.





i get that yeah, okay, no cards, flowers, or any kinds of gifts, ive only given my bf one gift in the yr weve been together, im poor after all :(, but not "i love you"s i would say that there is no romantisism in this relationship. so i have to ask..... how do you show affection????
Reply:If they don't show you affection through gifts, and don't show you affection through telling you that they love you, and you guys have done nothing but f u c k for 6 years, I'd say you're a pretty good lay if they've stood with you for that long, they obviously don't value you and you're probably the woman/man on the side of an actual relationship they have, or they're cheating on you and having an actual relationship there.


Get out of it. It's really not doing much for you but satisfying your sex drive. And you can do that without the emotional turmoil of thinking you're in an actual relationship with someone when they haven't even said they love you after 6 years.
Reply:Personally, I do not find this normal at all. Gifts are just material things, and some people are just not into giving or receiving them, but not saying "I love you" while being with someone for six years is totally beyond my scope of experience. Many people find that six years with no engagement is too long - I don't know how you've managed to hang in there for that long without hearing those three little words.





If you want to spend your life with this person, I think you should sit down, have a long talk and find out exactly where you both stand. I don't like ultimatums, and am not suggesting you go this route, but you really do need to know what your significant other wants out of this relationship. If the past six years are indicative of the speed things are going, I don't see you ever getting married. Good luck. You have a lot of patience, which is good, but make sure you're not being too patient.
Reply:Well everyone's situation is different and some people are not the affectionate type





Personally I wouldn't put up with that, I need more and does it take that much effort to buy a card for a birthday???





Im assuming your a woman, if your asking this question you probably feel deep down that it IS bothering you, if Im right-tell him and if you continue to feel unhappy and unfufilled then find someone that can satisfy your needs %26amp; wants


Easier said then done, but imagine a lifetime of that......
Reply:BREAK UP WITH HIM ITS OVER!!!
Reply:What country you from? Maybe in some countries it is more common? It is not normal but then again what is normal nowadays. It seems to hurt your feelings so you should confront them about it. Maybe make some comment when a cheesy commercial is on about how nice it would be to get something, etc.
Reply:I kinda have a similar situation, but I speak on it, and let him know this is what i want. He tells me he loves me, but does really do things just because, like flowers and things. We've been together a couple of years , and I've had 2 roses, and that's it. I dont feel it's normal.
Reply:It is normal in that many people are willing to settle for this type of relationship. A commitment is something to be cherished. This sounds like a huge lack thereof.
Reply:i've never had this situation. yet, i've never been in a relationship for 6 years either. I would think that atleast after a year they would know if they love one another. I probably wouldn't stay in a relationship 6 years if I were in this situation.
Reply:break it off, it's going nowhere
Reply:i have been wit some1 for 9 years not married or anything, i get spoiled wit anything n everything n our relat is stronger day by day n its more like obstacle u go through n marraige wise always comes up but its more like once i get married its time for us to settle down n make our family n rite now we think of that plus when u get married u do start making ur family n its not bout u its bout that lil person who needs u the most but im 26 so im not too young or old but to be wit some1 i dont need something telling me im married its all just respect for one another n trust



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