Girls, how do i know if im going too fast or not agressive enough?

I have always ponder about this. SOmetimes people tell me that Im too agressive, other times people tell me that girls need to be pursued and I have to be the aggressive one. Im so confused. I have had relationships in the past and to this date i still dont know if i need to be more aggressive or not aggressive enough when im with a girl. And the worst thing is, some girls likes to play the "game" which i hate cos it complicates things than they are supposed to be.


EX: I sometimes buy flowers or gifts to girls. Others say that its too much, others say its right. I only do it when i feel is right and have some assurance that atleast something is going on.


EX: i dont call every day cos i find that a bit too agreesive coming from past experience. However, sometimes people tell me i have to be more..."on the go agressive"


EX i try to keep a friendly mood unless i get hints that shes interested. Like joking around every now and then.


EX:


i dont get intimacy unless i know for sure

Girls, how do i know if im going too fast or not agressive enough?
too long, sorry!



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