How/why does someone act madly in love but continue to cheat behind that persons back?

My 30 yr old bro "Jo" has been dating his old high school gf for over 6 mons. He braggs consently about how wonderful "Peg" is to anyone who will listen. He spends all his free time with her and showers her with gifts,cards,flowers. Brings her to all the family functions and spends the whole time dotting on her. Well I just found out Jo has been cheating on Peg with someone at work(long story but know its true) and not just once but for over 4 mons! Jo told this girl all about Peg and that he has no plans on leaving Peg for her BUT Peg does not have a clue about this other ckick!If Peg ever found out she would be heartbroken and Jo knows this. So my questions are 1. If someone is "madly" in love why would they want to cheat(numerous) times on someone they charish and risk getting cought and hurting the other person. 2. I love my bf and don't even have a desire to cheat with anyone else even if i could get away with it so why would my bro?

How/why does someone act madly in love but continue to cheat behind that persons back?
To answer both your questions simply he wants to have his cake and eat it too. He wants to have the stability of a relationship, but he also wants the perks that come with being single. I hope you make him realize that what he is doing will only ruin the relationship and he is hurting no one but himself and Peg.
Reply:Hello Jo's sis.


You see, for some ppl love and sex are 2 different things.


Jo may really and truly have terrific EMOTIONAL feelings for Peg but, at the same time, this other girl may be A+ in bed.


Those are PHYSICAL feelings.





My gf sometimes hooks up with other guys - specially black guys when she is on holiday down in Jamaica, Cuba, or Mex - but I know that she is just doing it for fun so we dont have any hard feelings. In fact, we joke about it.





I am sure that your bro does not go out and do this TRYING to hurt Peg. Btw, have u ever asked him about this?





Also, in some other countries in Asia and Europe having a lover when you are married is common. They seem able to deal with it fine. France makes good wine, Germany makes good cars. So do the Japanese. And still they have lovers.














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Reply:hmmmm, this is hard! i think that not all ppl cheat, just ur bro has a um....ambition for adventure. he probably finds it boring just to have a relationship with one girl, and needs to have a little fun! but, don't worry, not all ppl r like that, alot of ppl acctually just want one relationship with a person they truly do love.





hope i helped! good luck =D!
Reply:wow..thats weird..usually there will be signs that Jo is losing interest in Peg or not inluv with her any more..but he is still "in love" with her?? strange..mabe hes phycotic..??
Reply:maybe he wants 2 girls, his girlfriend is the one he wants to be with but the other girl he is just doing timepass
Reply:Your dorky brother doesnt love peg ,come on man shes in highschool for F's sake shes just a baby what 30 y/o man would wanna marry a teenage girl when he can have himself a real woman,Your brother is a big dork whose using peg for sex , what older man doesnt wanna bang a teenage girl ,its almost every mans fantasy .Hes gonan end up dumping that little girl for the one hes cheating with , Get over kid dont tell peg and dont mess with your brother , Thats life get over it and live your own life.
Reply:he obivously is self concensous he probally wants to try new things and wants to keep her around as long as possible, guys do stupid things and regret it once the person they loved and cherished the most is gone, guys dont think sometimes they usally just use there YEAH you get my drift,
Reply:ive cheated only once, it was because the girl led me into it on a school bus trip. she was better looking frankly then my gf at the time (but she was a complete *****) and i played along. maybe something similar happenend to ur bro and he just liked the thought knowing he cud get away with it and kept on doin it.
Reply:your brother is not in love with this girl, if he were he would not cheat, what comes around goes around and don't worry the longer it goes on, the better chance peg has of finding out, if she doesn't already know, things are not always as they appear, look at all you just found out, and here you were thinking they are madly in love with each other.



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