Hubby bought a supervisor a cake, he's NEVER bought me one(17yrs togthr). Should I get mad?

He's picked up the phone and called in flowers but never gifts or a cake. I'm feeling slighted since he's making an effort to personally go pick up a cake. Would you feel slighted and why?

Hubby bought a supervisor a cake, he's NEVER bought me one(17yrs togthr). Should I get mad?
Hecy yeah, I'd be upset. He is obviously making this person a priority with something he has never done with you who should be number one.





He should never do for someone else something he is not willing to do for you.
Reply:Over a cake??? No. If he kisses the supervisor, now you have a problem. Remember, he gave you his life. Somehow , cake doesn't seem relevant here.
Reply:supervisor a woman? feel bad....
Reply:a cake is less than flowers, so dont worry, anyway tell him how you feel
Reply:YOU NEED TO EXPRESS YOUR FEELING TO HIM...
Reply:there's no reason at all why you should feel slighted, get mad or feel jealous.....he's the boss and in the position to buy cakes for his staff if he chooses, however he could have and should have had someone else do it. But, maybe the company is a small one or maybe nobody else wanted to do it and he owed that person something (for doing a good job all year), and it surely is a heck of a lot better than buying them a present.
Reply:i would'nt be mad if buying the chick a cake is going to get him a raise then so be it as long as he brings me a slice home!!!
Reply:He's probably just sucking up to the boss.


The cake is most likely going to be shared by the people at the job or office, himself included. This sounds like a work situation. Don't bother yourself about it. Next birthday or other gift type day give hints (on paper) about what you would like. Do you want a cake or would you rather him take you out to dinner where you can order dessert?
Reply:What do you have for birthday cake if your husband never gets you one? Does he even know that you want one? Are you always on a diet? Maybe he doesn't bring you cake because he thinks you won't want it. Also, what do you get for birthdays and christmas? You stayed with the guy for 17 years and he's never given you a gift?
Reply:Don't get all frustrated behind cake. Just tell your hubby you will be expecting a cake on your birthday.
Reply:stop worring about nothing. your hubbies supervisor can promote your hubby, can you?
Reply:Sounds Like Cake Issues


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Reply:Be thankful that you at least get flowers.We`ve been together 30 years and I`ve never gotten flowers or a card let alone a cake.
Reply:I would just monitor the situation. I know that in my experiences if it dosen't feel right it usually isn't. Just don't go overboard and ruin your relationship with jealousy.
Reply:No..no. Its his boss and everyone in the office is probably behind it. Maybe you are just a little jealous because his boss is a woman. But you shouldnt worry coworkers bring cakes in all the time for someone leaving, B-day, promotions, holidays doesnt really matter.
Reply:Please dont get upset over this, but if you are getting all pissy over a cake are you sure there aren't deeper rooted issues at large here? I mean, its a cake, for an employee. He is running a business, sometimes to keep moral up in the workplace, the main boss/supervisor occasionally has to lower himself to the same level as the day worker, makes him look human and able to interact with the employees on a larger scale than the Yes sir no sir, you are right boss, kind of thing.
Reply:Do you bake yourself? I ask because I do, and my husband NEVER buys me a cake, although he will buy one for the ladies at work from time to time. Heck, I even bake so that he can take cake to the ladies! Some men honestly just don't think though, so tell him how slighted you were, you may be surprised to find that he didn't know.
Reply:My husband bought flowers for a woman at work whose birthday it was, It made me mad because he never went out of his way for me. If he didn't do it for you yes, you can be mad but don't overdue it. He was maybe showing his "nice" side. Cake doesn't mean sex. He did buy you flowers, think of the good things he has done.
Reply:Oh Dear God!!! Come on! So he bought her a cake. He was probably told to by someone else in the office. We have pitch in's all the time where I work. Everyone brings something for whoever's birthday it is. It isn't a big deal!!!





Pick your battles!! After 17 years together, I would think that you have more important issues to deal with!!!





If you want him to buy you a cake - tell him! Men need a lot of direction!!





You are being a little insecure about this. I really think you should just let it go - it isn't a big deal!!
Reply:Honestly, I'd be a little peeved. I see it quite often, when husbands are more considerate of other females than their own wives. I don't even think they realize it, if that makes you feel any better. I'd bring it to my husband's attention, maybe by saying something like "How nice and thoughtful of you, I wonder why she gets a cake and the woman that washes your shorts doesn't?"
Reply:My dad brings donuts and cookies to work for female co-workers, I never seen my mom get mad at him LOL
Reply:Talk to hubby don't get mad, men are slow sometimes, maybe you could mention how nice it would be if he was to do it for you one day. Explain how you feel a bit ripped off because he doesn't put in the effort for you may be he will get it Good luck
Reply:Be the bigger person....he isn't hiding anything from you......you are just being petty.
Reply:Yes you should feel that way. As a matter of fact I think that this is grounds for divorce in most states. So call your lawyer and change the locks.
Reply:Absolutely not!





If my husband bought me a cake, (or anything edible) I'd be cross (i'm on a diet) but that's besides the point, it won't get you your cake and it won't make him be any more thoughtful.





I would tell him what a lovely thoughtful gesture and what a kind man he is and how happy you'd be if he bought a cake (or in my case diamond earrings) for you.





You're more likely to get them then.





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Reply:I think it's jealousy that you are feeling - he's doing something for someone that he has never done for you. I doubt he thought of it on his own, someone at work probably suggested it to him so he ordered a cake for everyone to eat at work. A lot of men don't think about things like that. I have to flat out tell my husband when I want something because he just doesn't think of it - why? Because he doesn't need it. Men and women think differently - neither is wrong, just different.





Tell him that you would like a cake for your birthday, too, and remind him as the date gets closer. It's just how men are, okay? Don't take it personally.



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