Is it just the hormones?

I'm 37 weeks pregnant and making my husband's life hell, I am so worried that he's not interested in me because I'm fat and bloated and always moaning about my back, my ankles, and the heart burn. Every time he glances a woman's way I snap at him, even if he wasn't looking at her, he keeps on telling me he loves me and I'm beautiful but I'm not I'm a hippo! He went out with his friends the other week and then I saw pictures of him on a mutual friend's photo bucket page and I exploded. We haven't talked for 5 days, he keeps trying to talk to me and buying me flowers and little gifts but I don't know why I am so angry with him!!!


I'm worried I'm losing my husband, but I 'm worried to not care, or make a big deal of things in case he is up to something what do I do?


has anyone else been through this what did you do?

Is it just the hormones?
I looked at the pictures. Whoo girl, he's a hottie. And, he just happens to be standing next to what could potentially be hookers, right?? They aren't all pregnant looking, they are holding beers, having a good time. While you my friend are about ready to pop, not sucking on suds, raging hormones and all. Plus, you say you've been a raging B lately.


I can understand why you would be concerned. Right now, you are happy one moment and can cry (along with pee) on comand. He is the one you love the most so most likely he is the one who is getting the worst of it.


Please, for your sake (and his). Try to love him, try to take it out on the mailman or something instead. Certainly don't push him away; though it's rather easy. Pretty soon, you won't be able to have any kind of sex whatsoever for at least a month. So you're going to have to be oral.....


What I'm trying to say is, your man obviously loves you and is going the extra mile. You need to as well. We all have to do things we don't want to do. You will find this true after you have the baby. He is still going to have his sex drive and you will probably not. In fact, you prob won't want to be touched at all. Ok, I'm rambling. What I'm trying to say...you don't want your man to stray, then don't give him a reason to. (NOT that there is ever a good reason to!)


I would have definitely asked him about the girls in the background. Say, hmm, who are they? Who are their dates or who did they arrive with? Get some background info. You should have teased him like, ooh, who are they?


You get a lot further with honey than you do vinegar. You should always keep your eyes open but trust is a big issue as well.


I have put a lot of my personal experience into this answer and hope that it helps somewhat. Good luck.


Btw, he's a hottie sista! Good for you!
Reply:Though I naturally don't know the personal details, this definitely sounds like a hormonal thing. Him going out and having fun could just be his way of trying to loosen up from the tension and stress of the pregnancy (that late in the pregnancy, they'll get really nervous and try to cover it up with various activities).





Try not to feel too bad, but also try to be patient. It'll be over soon enough!
Reply:maybe its depression. the hormones are going crazy. Talk to him and get his help maybe you guys need to spice it up a little in your love life. Make him really intersed in you. Like a romantic night. (you know) show him how hot you are! make him droll! you should feel really pretty now! Maybe get some depression pills to even out your hormones.
Reply:HORMONES! and I saw the pics they don't look like he is doing anything bad, do you know his friends. I had the same thing my Hormones were pretty bad I'm surprise my husband still with me and to think that I'm Preggo again with the 3rd. But he is prepare for the Evil Wife lol lol lol lol lol
Reply:its just the hormones. chill out and sit down and talk to him. and if that is you in the avitar your not a hippo you are a verry pretty (from what i can see) pregnant woman. good luck. i hope everything works out.
Reply:Sound like the hormones are talking. Chill out and speek to him. He is proably stressing out about all this as much as you. If that is your pic in the avitar, then you are not a hippo. You are pregant
Reply:My husband has been doing the same thing. I kicked him out of the house. (I don't care what my husbands reason is)
Reply:i have not been super preggers yet, so i am just making this up, but your husband sounds reasonably attentive and helpful. maybe you need to work on keeping it in a little and learning to say, "wow, honey, my hormones are just going nutso and making me really irritable right now. I am pretty cranky! Look out!" Don't do everything you feel like doing, especially if it is detrimental to your marriage.





i don't know why you think he is up to something just because he went out. he wouldn't put the pic on photobucket if he was up to something, unless he is really stupid. remember, he feels fine -- he never feels fat and tired and cranky, so sometimes he wants to go out and burn off some steam. if he is doing that with friends and not strippers, good for him, imo.





do you ever offer to go out with him? just because you are pregnant doesn't mean you can't spend a couple hours out with friends. just ask if you can go home on the early side, before everyone gets stupid drunk, and tell him to have an extra beer since you are the DD anyway. it seems like you should be trying to have some fun, too.
Reply:at least he's making gestures and getting gifts for you. i got nothing and turns out he was looking on dating sites and misc. from what you say your husband seems very devoted to you, and his night out can be related to a bachelor party. its the last time he will get to do it for a very long time, so he's trying to unwind and enjoy. let him have his fun, and make sure you make time for YOU. especially now. he loves you, and your reactions are due to hormones. take deep breaths and ask yourself if it is really important, and if it is why? it should help you gain some control and be able to calm down.
Reply:Of coarse it's your hormones. They are raging right now. You can't help the way you feel. Your husband loves you (even when you are fat and bloated). But you know what, you are beautiful. You are going through the process of a miracle. Is this your first baby? You only have maybe 4 weeks left. He's not going to leave you or do anything to jeopordize your family you are starting together. And trust me, in about 6 months maybe less, you two are going to be laughing about this time of your pregnancy.
Reply:This is completely normal. When I was pregnant I felt so fat and unattractive that I couldn't understand why my partner loved me when I looked the way I did and was acting like a complete cow! like you I pushed him away. After I'd had our son I felt I could speak to him about it and he told me he felt really lonely and confused about how I was acting. He told me he loved me so much but he didn't no how to reach me so it was best to leave me to it.





I'm sure your partner loves you very much but unfortunately as much as our partners try to understand what were going through they can't! which I think gets us even more mad!





Just try to relax about the whole situation and I'm sure when your child is born everything will be back to normal!





Good luck





Vicki
Reply:At least he's trying to make up with you. My husband would have just ignored me and kept doing it, and then eventually called me a "psycho bi!ch." But your husband is most likely nicer...





You are being a bit hormonal, but it's to be expected and respected. You're going through a huge change, emotionally and physically. He is too, but not to the extent of you. There's an episode of Friends where Rachel tells Ross she knows she has no right, but she doesn't want him to date while she's pregnant because she's so sad she can't. Ross tells her that if that's what she wants, that's what he'll do. He tells her that she's carrying his baby and that's the most important thing.





If your husband is genuinely sorry for not considering your feelings, I'd give him a break. If he's just plying you with nicities to distract you while he goes out again leaving you sad and alone, then you've got a problem.





Good luck and congrats.
Reply:What you are feeling inside your self is completely normal. How you are projecting it towards him is not right though. Even though you feel like you are a complete cow, you are not! And its not his fault, in fact from what you are telling us, he seems to be a really nice guy and is being supportive. Please please try to chill out.. when you feel like snapping at him think about whether or not ur just being sensitive or not. I am 37 weeks pregnant also and go through the same emotions, and what I do to help myself is just cry. Sometimes crying can release those feelings and make you feel better. but if you are tearing your husband apart every chance you get, that won't make you feel better, its gonna make you feel worse because in the end, you are still gonna be angry
Reply:I suprised you haven't told you doctor about your problems, I'm sure they have a solution to help out.


I remember when I was younger and my wife was pregnant and when thru the same problems until she told the doc and he helped her.


About your husband having a good time in what we men call is lucky to get away from the pressures. I know it's too bad women can't just put all this to the side and go out and have a worry free time, but maybe if you two could find something you both can do to help each other out with the pressure, things will smooth out.


Get yourself better and you'll find the rest is easy.


Have a great future with your gift G-d has given you!!
Reply:Im 32 weeks along... and i feel as if im the same way.


Silly things my hubby does makes me wanna kick him in the face... lol.


He's awesome to me still though... as it seems your husband is to you.


I would blame the hormones and your anxiousness... it makes us on edge... and sometimes if/when you get in a better mood, look him in the face and say "i love you! thank you!" and let him know you're not as mean as you seem to be. Im sure he thinks that anyways, but these hormones are mean.





I hope your pregnancy goes well... and congrats. :D


just wait till it happens.. im pretty sure all of the hormones will be worth it... to both of you. :D
Reply:  I think you are over reacting but I know how you feel.....your at home big and pregnant and can't do much and he is not.Try to understand that it will be over soon and cut him a little break.It sounds like he loves you and he can have a life to. He needs to be respectful at the same time.  Try to find something to do with your time when you are feeling mad at him.  Best of luck......it's almost over.
Reply:Deja Vu. LOL its the hormones. I actually left mine 2x. I get gone and say why the hell am I so mad. I talked to the dr and she agreed it was hormones. She assured me that they will calm down. I know he is freaking out as much as you. It seems like we take it out on the one we love the most.I actually asked my doctor if I would ever like him again. I wonder if its because they are there all the time and they are just innocently in the line of fire. I know I am going to have to get my hubby a great gift after all this for putting up with me. Im sorry to hear about all the stress, but I am glad to know Im not abnormal.
Reply:I am only 27 weeks and I feel the same way. I am sure it has alot to do with hormones. Do not worry too much about losing him as he probably knows its your hormones and I am sure he will stick around.





Good Luck with the baby.
Reply:Hi, Let me start by telling you that i have 4 children and felt exactly the same way with all 4 pregnancies. You are defo not a hippo but gorgeously pregnant with your husbands child. It is so natural especially at the end of pregnancy for you to feel angry irritated and insecure, i think it is just nerves about the labour and birth of your child. Although i know it is hard for you at the moment try and forgive your husband having a little fun as you will need each other soon enough when baby is born.As soon as your baby is born you will be so happy that you are a mother and your hormones will begin to go back to normal and you will feel human again. I know just by looking at your husband and listening to you that you are a very nice loving couple.Also remember that you are the one he married and you are the one carrying his child. I hope this helps a little and wish you all the luck in the world with the birth of your baby.




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